After the first kid, did you lose interest in pregnancy books and info?
With DD, ten years ago, I pored over two or three pregnancy books. I read everything. I wanted to make sure I was doing it all right.
This time. Meh. I just want the prize out of the machine in 7 months.
I tried reading an updated version of What to Expect When You're Expecting. But it was as boring as the incredibly lame and inaccurate version ten years ago. I threw out the other two books. Totally unreadable. DH has an app that does the day by day stuff, but even that is a big "who cares" for me. I'm reading Game of Thrones. Far more interesting.
I don't want to hear any mommy/baby oriented conversation any more now than I did then. It took me five playgroups to find one that didn't bore me to tears. The one I liked best, served wine and had animated discussions about politics and dumb tv shows.
I'm very happy I'm pregnant again. We really worked hard for this baby. I'm nervous and holding my breath at every doctor's visit. I'm high risk and I panic if they don't find that heartbeat in the first few seconds. I'm even too anxious to be excited.
I am keeping up with the pregnancy, every few days, on The Cradle's calendar. Just for DD. Now SHE wants to know every little detail.
All I want it to not vomit on the dog during his walk, to have an easier time pooping and to get a healthy baby in November. or late October if my blood pressure keeps up like it is.
Did anyone else feel this way about the "next" kid(s)?
I have had so much more anxiety with this one, my line of thinking is I had a first who was perfectly healthy and easy, so this one HAS to have something wrong. I have an app on my phone, a weekly update, but nope, no books. lol I guess I just figure everything is the same, I am pretty laid back about it. I have 2 weeks left, and the anxiety is getting worse but now its more about DD1 and her reaction to the baby.
P.S. have you tried sea bands? they go on your wrists and they worked wonders for my nausea. They are at CVS and you can get them by the motion sickness stuff. Hopefully they help for you too!
And I totally get you about the playgroups. I left my hometown with a great moms group and haven't found one since. The moms where DS goes to school and karate don't talk about anything but kids... or the other moms (I was being a bad parent taking my son out of school to meet Bill Clinton). I want to ask if they had a lobotomy when they gave birth.
My mom and I were obsessed with my first pregnancy. We knew everything that was happening with the baby. I had like 10 different sites that I would go on and a few books. With my second, I maybe skimmed the month by month chapters a couple times...but I didn't feel the urge to keep up with what was going on. I knew all the signs to watch for from the previous pregnancy. I did focus more on delivery and breastfeeding this time, because I wanted a natural delivery and had failed at breastfeeding my first.
That's me! That's me! So I'm not just being crazy? This is normal? Oh, thank you for writing that!
I'm not worried about DD. She's 10 and she thinks this is the coolest "project" ever.
Sea Bands. Yeah. My mom lent me hers. Did not work. She said, "Well, why don't you use what you use when you go out deep sea fishing and diving? I know you said you used something that stopped the barfing.". Yes, I did Mom. It was weed. But thanks for the suggestion. ;-)
Quoting SarahSue87:I have had so much more anxiety with this one, my line of thinking is I had a first who was perfectly healthy and easy, so this one HAS to have something wrong. I have an app on my phone, a weekly update, but nope, no books. lol I guess I just figure everything is the same, I am pretty laid back about it. I have 2 weeks left, and the anxiety is getting worse but now its more about DD1 and her reaction to the baby.
P.S. have you tried sea bands? they go on your wrists and they worked wonders for my nausea. They are at CVS and you can get them by the motion sickness stuff. Hopefully they help for you too!
Quoting quickbooksworm:
Well I just have the one kid and his outlook for siblings isn't good since I'm currently single. But I can't imagine pouring over those psychotic books again. It didn't pass the time faster. The diets are insane and who can choke down all that stuff with morning sickness?! It didn't make me a better mom, just gave me a million things to worry about.
And I totally get you about the playgroups. I left my hometown with a great moms group and haven't found one since. The moms where DS goes to school and karate don't talk about anything but kids... or the other moms (I was being a bad parent taking my son out of school to meet Bill Clinton). I want to ask if they had a lobotomy when they gave birth.
I know, right? What's wrong with these women? And they act like I'm the freak if I don't want to endlessly discuss diapers and sippy cups. Holy fuck, what happened to these women? And, yeah, I didn't get the post-partum lobotomy either. DH says I should just start a playgroup when this one comes out. "The Wine and Cheese Playgroup, quiet children welcome". LOL.
Raised 4 kids to adulthood. Never cracked a single pregnancy book. Nor a child rearing book. But, my 1st was born 35 years ago. Reading up on all that just wasn't the fad then. There was a bit of dwindling Dr. Spock followers. But, that was really about the only reference book in those days. And, that was written when my mother was having babies. So, I had no real interest in that outdated "advice". LOL.
I'm being unzipped, just like last time. At 45 (46 then!), with my oddly high blood pressure, not much choice. And, also, my ob/gyn said, "I'm not going to discuss or entertain discussion of a home or water birth. Due to several factors, it's going to be a c-section, that is all."
I'm getting all the baby updates I need from DD. "OMG, mom! It's 4 centimeters now!! And the intestines are almost all in!" Yeah, okay, thanks.
Quoting ejbljb:My mom and I were obsessed with my first pregnancy. We knew everything that was happening with the baby. I had like 10 different sites that I would go on and a few books. With my second, I maybe skimmed the month by month chapters a couple times...but I didn't feel the urge to keep up with what was going on. I knew all the signs to watch for from the previous pregnancy. I did focus more on delivery and breastfeeding this time, because I wanted a natural delivery and had failed at breastfeeding my first.
No, but I have hundreds, if not into the thousands, of dollars worth of medical books pertaining to obstetrics and gynecology.
It's not just a personal obsession (Thank you Aspergers), but also helpful in my professional life as well.
Am I wrong for not giving a F**** that hes dying?
- inspain
on Apr. 22, 2012 at 9:01 AM