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what the f***ity f**** *she was 1 and he was 3 O_O

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:07 PM
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Child Bride Has Marriage Annulled. Laxmi Sargara is Our Hero of the Day

Laxmi holds up her hard-won annulment. (AFP)At an age when most kids are learning to walk, Laxmi Sargara was already married. Her husband, Rakesh, was just three-years-old when family sealed the deal on their fate. She was one. 

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Now seventeen years later the couple have set a history-making precedent by having their marriage annulled. But the real hero of this story is Laxmi, now 18, who took remarkably brave steps to reverse the archaic tradition and opened the door for more child brides to follow.

Though technically illegal in India, poor families living in rural areas often rely on these types of partnerships, using kids as pawns in order to provide more financial stability to those who can't afford to feed their children long-term. The fall-out is hardest felt for child brides, plucked from their parents' homes in their teens and forced to live with the husband they wed as a toddler and his family. The girls are expected to play the role of obedient wife and daughter-in-law, and in some instances, are beaten into submission by members of their new family. 

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Just days ago, Laxmi's was informed of her own marriage obligations, promised almost two decades before by her Rajasthani elders, and given a move-in deadline of April 24 from her in-laws. 

"I was unhappy about the marriage. I told my parents who did not agree with me, then I sought help," Sargara told AFP. 

She reached to a social worker in Jodhpur who advocates for children's rights through an organization called the Sarathi Trust. The social worker contacted the groom, who was prepared to go through with family arrangement. After some persuading, he finally changed his mind and agreed to an annulment, influenced by the fact that he'd be marrying a woman risking everything to live without him. 

"It is the first example we know of a couple wed in childhood wanting the marriage to be annulled, and we hope that others take inspiration from it," Kriti Bharti, the social worker who orchestrated the annulment, told AFP. 

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A joint legal document signed by both Rakesh and Laxmi made it official and provided a road map for other young brides to do the same. 

"Now I am mentally relaxed and my family members are also with me," said Laxmi, who beamed as she held up the document for photographers. She plans to continue her education in hopes of landing a job so she can maintain her independence. But Laxmi's newfound freedom comes with risk. 

In India, where an estimated 50 percent of girls are married before they're 18, opponents of arranged child marriages can face serious threats, including gang rape, beatings and maiming. On the same day as Laxmi's annulment became official, protesters trying to stop a mass child wedding in Rajasthan were attacked and injured by villagers. When a 13-year-old refused to wed her arranged husband in 2009, her parents withheld her food for two weeks. Amazingly, the young girl prevailed and gained international attention and support for her stance. This week Laxmi moved the needle even further; hers is the first legally-binding child marriage annulment in India's history. 

Child marriages are a worldwide phenomenon, particularly in rural areas with high poverty rates and closely-guarded ancient traditions. In parts of Sub-Saharan Africa, South Asia, The Middle East and even the U.S. underage children are forced into marriages at the behest of their families. In recent years, American officials have cracked down on fundamentalist polygamist sects in Utah and Texas known to pair adult grooms with child brides. Other countries provide less legal clout needed to protect young girls. In Yemen where, there is no punishment for families who marry off an underage daughter, about half the country's brides are under 15. In Saudi Arabia, there is no minimum age for marriage at all. An 8-year old girl found this out in 2009, when the Saudi courts denied her annulment request. At the time, her husband was 58. 

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Good for both "kids" involved. How sad.


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mstkn.identity
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:12 PM

bump

Josie.Grossie
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:15 PM
A 8 yr old girl and 58 yr old man? Wtf!!!
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.betty.white.
by bilf on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:16 PM

That was great for her.  I can't believe thats still practiced...  I always thought that India was *somewhat* progressive.  But this article reminds me while they are progressing in some ares, they have so much further to go :/

mstkn.identity
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:18 PM

sad isnt it? How freakin crazy. Yes i know it might be a cultural thing, but still wow. 

Quoting Josie.Grossie:

A 8 yr old girl and 58 yr old man? Wtf!!!


mstkn.identity
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:18 PM

Yes it is. Glad to see that they are able to make their own choices. 

Quoting .betty.white.:

That was great for her.  I can't believe thats still practiced...  I always thought that India was *somewhat* progressive.  But this article reminds me while they are progressing in some ares, they have so much further to go :/


.betty.white.
by bilf on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:20 PM

For those two, but what about the 50%?  And those that try to reject the marriage, according to the article are subjected to horrible treatment like gang rape, withholding food from family, etc :( 

Quoting mstkn.identity:

Yes it is. Glad to see that they are able to make their own choices. 

Quoting .betty.white.:

That was great for her.  I can't believe thats still practiced...  I always thought that India was *somewhat* progressive.  But this article reminds me while they are progressing in some ares, they have so much further to go :/










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Aislin
by Gold Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:21 PM
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Quoting Josie.Grossie:

A 8 yr old girl and 58 yr old man? Wtf!!!

 That part made me want to cry. That poor little girl

coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:21 PM
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Good for her!
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mstkn.identity
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:24 PM

I didnt read all of it. But i will. That is just so grrr. I have a friend who comes from a muslim family. The girl in the 6th grade decided she wanted to be a christian. Well as she got older her mom would have the family gang up against her to try to make her go back to being muslim. Her mom even had a man picked out for her for when she turned 18. 

Well my friend told her mom she would not do it and she would move out before then. Well at 18 the girl decided to be a missionary. Her mom told her to never come home and that she couldnt talk to any of the family again. I think her mom has finally accepted her but im not sure. 

Its sad to see this stuff. 

Quoting .betty.white.:

For those two, but what about the 50%?  And those that try to reject the marriage, according to the article are subjected to horrible treatment like gang rape, withholding food from family, etc :( 

Quoting mstkn.identity:

Yes it is. Glad to see that they are able to make their own choices. 

Quoting .betty.white.:

That was great for her.  I can't believe thats still practiced...  I always thought that India was *somewhat* progressive.  But this article reminds me while they are progressing in some ares, they have so much further to go :/




cherib82
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 6:25 PM
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What if they hated each other from the first time they met? Then be told oh hey that's your husband. I just couldn't imagine having to live like that. Hopefully the more attention it gets they will stop doing that. No one should be told they have to marry someone they don't love
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