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do you let your dd wear a Bikini **made links clickable**edit pic of what we got on pg 19

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Question: which swimsuit for 4 yr old dd

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We are getting a swmming pool for the back yard so would you get a bikini or a tankini for your 4 yr old daughter? it will only be used for swimming in the back yard not at public pools and theres no beach around

dd liked these ones

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Op-Girls-Cherry-Garcia-2-Piece-Halter-Tankini/19397520

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Op-Girls-Almost-Famous-2-Piece-Suimsuit/19397602

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Op-Girls-Going-Wild-2-Piece-Suimsuit/19398799

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Op-Girls-Sugar-Pop-2-Piece-Halter-Bikini/19407236

by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 7:14 PM
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manda-nicole010
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:25 PM
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I let my daughter wear two pieces. :) I think they are cute. I've seen what happens when parents are to tight on their kids. I plan on doing my best to find that happy medium and quite frankly there are more things to worry about. 

A one piece won't stop people from looking.  

bebe_ju-rah
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:25 PM
Easier to take off and put on for bathroom breaks

I haven't been able to find a 1 pc that fits dd right. If they are long enough, they are too loose. If the fit width wise-they give her a constant wedgie.

For beach trips-sand comes out of the "business end" MUCH easier then 1 pcs. 1 pcs trap sand on her belly and aggregate her skin.

Annnnddd she likes to wear what momma wears. All good reasons to me!


Quoting DropZoneMom:

Oh, REALLY???   Then what exactly IS the goal??


Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

Lol @ the goal of a bikini being to attract men. That's such a load of bs.



Quoting DropZoneMom:

NO -- I would not put a 4-year-old in a bikini.   Partly because I don't think they're appropriate (what is the goal of a bikini?  To attract the attention of men).   YES -- I understand that she'll only be swimming in a backyard pool.

But she also doesn't need that much skin exposed to the sun.   The incidences of skin cancer -- and deadly melanoma -- have been on the rise for years.   WHY would you take any more risks than necessary??   A tankini isn't going to take away from her enjoyment of the pool.  It will also be easier to say "no" to a bikini when she's a blossoming 13-year-old.   (Mine is okay with not being 'allowed' to wear one till she's 16).

There is no good reason to wear a bikini.  And several good reasons NOT to.


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DropZoneMom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:28 PM

For more 'mature' women -- okay, I'll buy that.   But for any girl under 25?   It's about attracting the attention of men.

Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

For many, like myself, it is a comfort issue. One-piece suits are uncomfortable to me. They always ride up and I don't feel like pulling wedgies out all day.

Quoting DropZoneMom:

Oh, REALLY???   Then what exactly IS the goal??


Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

Lol @ the goal of a bikini being to attract men. That's such a load of bs.



Quoting DropZoneMom:

NO -- I would not put a 4-year-old in a bikini.   Partly because I don't think they're appropriate (what is the goal of a bikini?  To attract the attention of men).   YES -- I understand that she'll only be swimming in a backyard pool.

But she also doesn't need that much skin exposed to the sun.   The incidences of skin cancer -- and deadly melanoma -- have been on the rise for years.   WHY would you take any more risks than necessary??   A tankini isn't going to take away from her enjoyment of the pool.  It will also be easier to say "no" to a bikini when she's a blossoming 13-year-old.   (Mine is okay with not being 'allowed' to wear one till she's 16).

There is no good reason to wear a bikini.  And several good reasons NOT to.



mcr17
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:28 PM

i dont care where the kids wearing it. and i talked about what im doing, if she wants her kid to look trampy at that age, no matter where she is, then she can go right ahead. i have better sense as a parent to realize that bikinis are for adults, not children.

Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

Newsflash. A pedophile who likes little girls will "whack off", as you put, to a kid in a frickin' snowsuit if he/she thinks the kid is cute. They don't need to see skin to get aroused.

The OP said it was for a backyard pool. How many pedophiles do YOU have in YOUR backyard?


Quoting mcr17:

my daughter WILL NOT have a bikini, if i have my way EVER a pedophile that likes little girls isnt going to care if they are developed enough to show something off in a bikini, it still arouses them. im not about to let my child be a memory for some sick fuck to whack off to later.


mom_of_twingirl
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:30 PM
my 4 yrs olds wear tankinis
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SlingsAndThings
by RissaBusch on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:30 PM
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Wa alaikum salaam. Plus they provide great sun protection! My daughter is soooo fair skinned.

Quoting Rose87:

ASA, sister.

This here. Especially for young girls. Pedophiles are EVERYWHERE!! (Just my opinion. Not judging. Whatever floats your boat for you and your kids!!)

Quoting SlingsAndThings:

No bikinis or even tankinis here. We do the little swim shirt and short sets


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TheMrs407
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:31 PM

I'm not 100% against them, but I like DD in a one piece.  It just makes it easier to play.  Though we are potty training this summer so a tankini would probably be a good idea.  She's not really old enough to have a say in what she wears just yet, but when she is we will take her opinions into consideration.

Paperfishies
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:31 PM
Yes, both my 8 and 2 year olds wear bikinis.
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Lorelai_Nicole
by Lorelai on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:32 PM
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Right. So my 12yo, 8yo, and 4yo are trying to attract men? I've been wearing a bikini since before I could walk, and it's never been about attracting men. Have you ever tried to put a wet one-piece back on a toddler after a potty run?

Quoting DropZoneMom:

For more 'mature' women -- okay, I'll buy that.   But for any girl under 25?   It's about attracting the attention of men.


Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

For many, like myself, it is a comfort issue. One-piece suits are uncomfortable to me. They always ride up and I don't feel like pulling wedgies out all day.



Quoting DropZoneMom:

Oh, REALLY???   Then what exactly IS the goal??



Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

Lol @ the goal of a bikini being to attract men. That's such a load of bs.





Quoting DropZoneMom:

NO -- I would not put a 4-year-old in a bikini.   Partly because I don't think they're appropriate (what is the goal of a bikini?  To attract the attention of men).   YES -- I understand that she'll only be swimming in a backyard pool.

But she also doesn't need that much skin exposed to the sun.   The incidences of skin cancer -- and deadly melanoma -- have been on the rise for years.   WHY would you take any more risks than necessary??   A tankini isn't going to take away from her enjoyment of the pool.  It will also be easier to say "no" to a bikini when she's a blossoming 13-year-old.   (Mine is okay with not being 'allowed' to wear one till she's 16).

There is no good reason to wear a bikini.  And several good reasons NOT to.



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Paperfishies
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:33 PM
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First of all a child can not look "trampy" as you put it. You sound just as fucked up as a pedo.


Quoting mcr17:

i dont care where the kids wearing it. and i talked about what im doing, if she wants her kid to look trampy at that age, no matter where she is, then she can go right ahead. i have better sense as a parent to realize that bikinis are for adults, not children.

Quoting Lorelai_Nicole:

Newsflash. A pedophile who likes little girls will "whack off", as you put, to a kid in a frickin' snowsuit if he/she thinks the kid is cute. They don't need to see skin to get aroused.



The OP said it was for a backyard pool. How many pedophiles do YOU have in YOUR backyard?




Quoting mcr17:

my daughter WILL NOT have a bikini, if i have my way EVER a pedophile that likes little girls isnt going to care if they are developed enough to show something off in a bikini, it still arouses them. im not about to let my child be a memory for some sick fuck to whack off to later.



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