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Is This Rude? Poll Included

Posted by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:38 PM
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Question: What're your thoughts?

Options:

Asking for money and food are rude requests.

Asking for money is a rude request, but asking for food is not.

Asking for food is a rude request, but asking for money is not.

Neither request is rude.


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 I just got a wedding invitation for a friend of my husband's, and a couple of the requests on it have rubbed a few people the wrong way. 

For example, they put in a note that says "In lieu of household items, plese send or gift funds to help the lovely couple reach their dream of a parisian honeymoon".  Almost everyone going to the wedding is a bit perturbed by that.

Also, they've said some food and drink will be provided, but guests are also expected to bring dishes.  I have never been to a wedding where you're supposed to bring food.  That also is rubbing a lot of people the wrong way, like you're only invited if you bring food and money. 

IDK...what do you ladies think? I'm curious to see some opinions of people who don't know them, just outside perspective. 

by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:38 PM
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I_love_doritos
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:39 PM
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That's tacky and rude
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sandra_t00
by ChaChi on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:41 PM
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not only rude, but very tacky.

why have a party you can't afford?
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indymom72
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:41 PM
that is tacky all day long...wow...
Christywf
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:42 PM
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Hell yes that's rude, they have the gall to ask for money for their honeymoon, AND for everyone to bring a dish??????  If it were me, I would mail them an empty brand new dish and not go to the wedding. 



 

Lorelai_Nicole
by Lorelai on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:42 PM
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I think the first request is fine. It's no different than a request for charitable donations instead of flowers when someone dies.

The second is harder to judge...If they're poor but still want to share their special day with friends and family, then I guess a potluck sort of reception isn't completely off the wall. I wouldn't do it, but...I don't know.
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PinkyPan
by Platinum Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:43 PM

Tacky as all hell.That is one wedding I would not be interested in attending. I recommend mailing a card.

C-Leigh
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:43 PM
Very rude.
i_lovedyoufirst
by Gold Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:43 PM
Wow
Chances are not many people are going to attend. People shouldn't try to use a wedding as a damn charity that's ridiculous
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hautemama83
by Nichole on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:43 PM
That's pretty tacky. Not so much the bring a dish part, but the cash part.
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IndigoRose
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:44 PM


Classless...

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