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You may THINK your child is well behaved but he is actually a brat!

 This is what I think about the majority of children that I come into contact with.  I dont understand why parents allow their children to: talk back, run around touching everything, argue with the parent, whine, throw temper tantrums, scream and cry to get their way, and just basically be rude little urchins.  I have five children that have been taught that you dont tlak back to an adult, you dont dare act up in public, you may ask for something once and I will either say yes or no but you may not whine, beg, or argue over my answer.  I dont care what type of discipline parents use but they need to be consistent.  I hate standing in line somewhere and listening to a parent/child argue about whether the kid is getting candy or not and then finally the parent will say " Well if you will be good the rest of the day you can have the candy" 

     WTH?  I dont bribe my children to behave I demand it...and lord help the child of mine that tells me no or dares to yell at me.  Please people wake up and realize children are not small adults they do not deserve the same treatment, respect, or privaledges adults do.  So why do you allow your child to misbehave? 

 

by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:03 AM
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nikki32230
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:58 AM
It's time to step off your little soap box now and give someone else a turn...
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braezmommy89
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:59 AM
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Did you honestly just ask this woman WHY SHE LOVES her bratty children??

They are her KIDS?! Wtf?!
Im sure they arent brats all the time but those moments that OMG they act like a brat is she supposed to stop loving them???

NEWS FLASH andersongirl562 your kids ARE not perfect!!


Quoting andersongirl562:

 


Quoting LoriLou75:


I, personally, love my bratty children.


 I would honostly like to know why?  As parents it is our job to raise our children to be polite, well behaved, law abiding citizens.  Why  would you not do right by your child and teach them from a young age what is and isnt acceptable?  If you dont teach them then who will?


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UxorQuodMatris.
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:59 AM
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I must be completely hopeless though, my 8 month old just finished a massive tantrum. He already hates the word "no" lol. Trouble- I'm in it.

Quoting jillbailey26:

Of course, lol.

Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

Well, everyone can be perfect mom on the Internet :)



Quoting jillbailey26:


Quoting UxorQuodMatris.:

You should totally write a parenting book.

Better yet, she should raise everyone's kids.  Clearly she can do a better job than anyone else.


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UxorQuodMatris.
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:59 AM
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Ooh! Ooh! Me next!

Quoting nikki32230:

It's time to step off your little soap box now and give someone else a turn...
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andersongirl562
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:00 PM

 

Quoting jillbailey26:

Also, don't we all "bribe" our kids at one time or another?  "Eat all your dinner and you can have dessert."  or "Do all of your homework and you can go outside (or play games, or play with toys, or whatever)".

 No I dont bribe my children I say " Eat all your dinner or you shall go to bed hungry, " Do all or your homeowork or you will be sitting at the table until it is done.  My kids do knot that if they bring home a straight A report card then I may go buy them something nice, or if they have been having a great week and say can I have a new toy then I will probly buy them one but I never say " If you do this then I will reward you with this. 

jillbailey26
by Emerald Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:01 PM


Quoting andersongirl562:

 

Quoting maressa76:

Ummmm...what exactly do you do to your kids??  My kids have temper tantrums, talk back and yadda yadda yadda...and I am very consistant with time outs, spanks and taking things away.  But guess what my kids are very stubborn.  Maybe your kids are just easy?

 I dont know I am very consistent make rules clear from the time they are able to walk. I have 5 kids and yes some are more stubborn than others but i dont bend so they eventually learn.  I use timeout,spanking,seperatio (their room with door closed)taking away priveledges whatever it takes to get the desired behavior.

Now I understand.  See, I don't hit my kids.  So while they may be "brats" in your eyes, I still refuse to "spank" them.  And I'm sure you might think 'well if you spanked them, they wouldn't be brats.'  No, still not doing it.  They're far from brats, but I have a little more respect for them than to stand over them and hit them.


"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification"  Romans 14:19

Paperfishies
by Platinum Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:02 PM

My children are well mannered, they say please and thank you, do not act crazy while we are out...Talking back means something different to everyone.  My children are not tiny zombie robots, they have their own mind and their own voices and they speak up for themselves when they see fit and I respect them for that and they respect me for allowing them to do that.  If I tell my 8 year old to clean her room and she asks if she can do XYZ first, she isn't talking back, she is asking me a question.

I am so happy my children aren't little sheep who just go along with whatever an adult tells them.

braezmommy89
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:02 PM
I agree with you 100%

I know im not perfect... close though haha jk so why should I expect my child to be perfect?



Quoting mommatothree01:

I don't expect perfection out of my kids, I have yet to meet an adult who is perfect.  So yes, I forgive the occasional meltdowns, the slip of the tongue and the pretty pleases that sometimes come when I say no.  I also realize that my kids are pretty damn good kids, even though there are times I find myself thinking I'm raising Tarzan's kids.  They are respectful, sweet, caring, giving, loving, and appreciative...most of the time.  The day I'm perfect is the day I expect my kids to be perfect.


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BamaMommy2
by Angel.N.Disguise on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:03 PM
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Ok, I've read lots of comments, posts, replies, ect on this site that say "I'm sorry, I haven't had my coffee yet" or "I'm sorry, I'm just having a bad day" or  "Just venting"

Kids are THE SAME WAY! If it's nap time (depending on age, of course)....expect cranky kids. If it's past lunch time....expect cranky kids. We, as mothers,  have good days and have bad ones. So do our children (everyone does)!! I don't expect my children to act perfect all the time, and you shouldn't either.

LectioDivina
by Gold Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:03 PM

<3


Amen.

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