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You may THINK your child is well behaved but he is actually a brat!

 This is what I think about the majority of children that I come into contact with.  I dont understand why parents allow their children to: talk back, run around touching everything, argue with the parent, whine, throw temper tantrums, scream and cry to get their way, and just basically be rude little urchins.  I have five children that have been taught that you dont tlak back to an adult, you dont dare act up in public, you may ask for something once and I will either say yes or no but you may not whine, beg, or argue over my answer.  I dont care what type of discipline parents use but they need to be consistent.  I hate standing in line somewhere and listening to a parent/child argue about whether the kid is getting candy or not and then finally the parent will say " Well if you will be good the rest of the day you can have the candy" 

     WTH?  I dont bribe my children to behave I demand it...and lord help the child of mine that tells me no or dares to yell at me.  Please people wake up and realize children are not small adults they do not deserve the same treatment, respect, or privaledges adults do.  So why do you allow your child to misbehave? 

 

by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 11:03 AM
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andersongirl562
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:26 PM

 

Quoting jillbailey26:


Quoting andersongirl562:

 

Quoting LoriLou75:

I, personally, love my bratty children.

 I would honostly like to know why?  As parents it is our job to raise our children to be polite, well behaved, law abiding citizens.  Why  would you not do right by your child and teach them from a young age what is and isnt acceptable?  If you dont teach them then who will?

Because, even though her kids don't live up to your standards, she loves them anyway

Is nobody here able to give an honost anwer as to why they accept and allow their children to act bratty?  Why be defensive and smart alecky?  I honostly wonder what people are thinking when they are standing in the store begging their child to stop throwing things, screaming and yelling?

PurplePieguy
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:27 PM

Thank you. I was wondering the same damn thing.

Quoting jillbailey26:

Eh, all kids have their moments and sometimes, as a parent, you have to pick your battles.  You may just be seeing one moment where that parent is picking a different battle than you would.

And to your statement about thinking your child is good, but they're really a brat.  Couldn't anyone else say the same about your child?


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aritoyh
by Silver Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:27 PM

I completely agree with you.

mrs.pina
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:28 PM
wow u seem to have all the answers .i'll tell u something not every unmannered kid or brat come out to be unpleasant people. Many kids that have manners and all that well good behave stuff turn out worse when they are all grown up .why? Becouse u never let them be kids. Kids are kids they should and have the right to act like one .


Quoting andersongirl562:

 


Quoting Mrs.Velasquez:

It's really none of your business why parents allow thier kids to be that way. Sure there are things we all dont like,but we dont know thier situation or reasons. Kids will be kids. my dd is a brat and I love her to death. I raise them by my standards and no one else's. I don't care who it bugs and annoys :)

 Why would you set your child up for failure like that?  Dont you realize that illbehaved, unmannered bratty children grow up to be very unpleasant adults with few friends?  Why not teach your child how to behave when they are small and save them the heartache later as an adult when they realize the world doesnt revolve around them?


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abbymommy915
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:29 PM
I can honestly say that Noone has ever given me a bad look or has said that my Dd isn't well behaved.... She throws fits every once in a while when she is late for her nap, but she is a child. It happens
jillbailey26
by Emerald Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:29 PM

What's the saying?

You judge others as you see yourself?

Judging others doesn't define who they are, it defines who you are?

Something like that.


"Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification"  Romans 14:19

matofour
by Gold Member on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:31 PM
Wrong, children are children.
They are NOT small adults, and don't have the impulse control, or the brainpower to act like adults.
I fully expect my kids to have kid moments...how will they learn if they don't.
My kids are very well behaved, but they are still kids and learn every day.
I don't expect them to act like adults, I expect them to act like kids. Well behaved kids, but to say they are little adults is ridiclious.


Quoting Mrs.Winchester:

Children are small adults, and deserve to be respected just like any other human being.  Don't respect your children and they won't respect you- it's that simple.


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laurenb1
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:31 PM
No I'm pretty sure my kid is a brat! But, I love him anyway.
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RadsMum
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:32 PM
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AMEN! You SHOULD demand that of your children!

You know I am taking a class because I am in school for Early Childhood Education. My teacher told us the other day, you don't ASK a child to do something you TELL Them to. Like Instead of "will you pick up the crayons?" Say, PICK UP THE CRAYONS. Or instead of using the word DONT, like "don't put your hand out the window" say KEEP YOUR HANDS IN THE CAR. It actually works, but it has to be started young and consistent and children need to LEARN that ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. My son is NO angel but he knows when I am serious and that NO MEANS NO and he better do as he is told or else. And you know what? I am not his best friend, I am his MOM but he also adores me! and it shows :)

Xo RadsMum oX
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TexasWife
by on Apr. 30, 2012 at 12:33 PM

I am sure those parents are just allowing it. You are seeing what is done in public. You don't see behind doors. I am sure all parents go to the store hoping their kids have a meltdown or misbehave.

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