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my son will be 3 in July, he had a slight speech delay but can use words for the most part now. Anyway, he has been doing this thing lately where he asks for something, like a specific dvd, and I put it on for him. In this case its an Imagination Movers dvd with an extra episode of Special Agent Oso. So I put it in and he's screaming "Oso, Oso, OSO!" So I put it on for him, then he starts screaming "Movers! Movers!!" So I put that on for him instead and he goes right back to screaming "Oso! Oso!!" So I change it back to Oso, then its "Movers! MOVERS!! Wahahahahahahaaaaaa!" So I put it back on Movers and tell him thats it, im done. He is still crying, but now he wants strawberry milk (which I never give him, SO gave him some the other day and he turned into a huge brat so no more of that) so he's screaming over that, then says "chocolate milk!" I again say no... More screaming and crying. Then he saying "blueberry, blueberry!!" So I try to give him some blueberries, he says no. Then he tried to open the fridge saying "strawberry, strawberry!!" So I help him open the door and he goes straight for the jelly, opens the top and sticks his finger in. So I again tell him no, close the jelly, shut the fridge all while he is screaming and crying for this and that. After all of that, he goes back to "Oso! Oso!!!" Uuuuugh!! NO! Just NO! How do I get him to stop without spanking him? I dont want to spank but he just will not listen and keeps screaming at me instead of calmly using his words. Then he constantly asks for things he cant have, so he pretty much never stops crying unless he is getting his way or gets temporarily sidetracked (like with the song on Movers right now)... Its just so frustrating and tiring... And DS gets me so mad that I end up snapping on DD for just asking a simple question. I always apologise to DD, she understands, but im also tired of her having to deal with and give in to her brother just to keep him from screaming at everyone, including herself. She is 4 btw.
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by on May. 1, 2012 at 9:23 AM
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kansasmom1978
by Katie on May. 1, 2012 at 9:45 AM
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You need to quit giving into him. Every time he screams you do waht he wants. I mean changing a movie over and over is stupid. He needs to learn to make a decision and stick with it.

JaimieLynn8
by on May. 1, 2012 at 9:46 AM
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Also, instead Of him telling you what he wants, YOU give him the choice. Strawberry milk or chocolate milk? And when he chooses strawberry, THAT is what he gets. He'll learn.
That's what our behavior/development specialist taught us when he couldn't tell us what he wanted.
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KimmyShaw
by Ruby Member on May. 1, 2012 at 9:47 AM
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You need to take charge, he is testing you! If he asks for one thing, you give it to him and tell him NO to changing it until that show or drink is finished.

tairakittie
by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2012 at 9:49 AM
Thanks for all the advice. :) I thought I was doing something wrong (which I am sometimes when I DO give into him) but I guess it just takes more time and patience on my part. *sigh* I just wish his sister didnt have to put up with so much from him, she loves him so much and just wants to play with him, which is hard to do when he is crying and repeating "no, no, no!!".
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Mrs_Szontagh
by on May. 1, 2012 at 9:49 AM

sounds like it may be nap time? 

Mehganh
by on May. 1, 2012 at 9:52 AM
Stop giving in. Tune out the screaming. And eventually he will realize he won't get what he wants anymore for acting out. It will take time. But be patient and once you say something stick to it!
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pristine729
by Silver Member on May. 1, 2012 at 9:55 AM
When he's throwing a fit, put him in his room until he calms down. And I have had to holds the door shut before. Now, when my son is upset (he's four) he goes in his room and comes out when he's calmed down.

You have to stick to your guns. Ask him, ” which show do you want to watch, and when I put it on, I'm not changing it.”
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psuedonym
by on May. 1, 2012 at 9:59 AM

There has been the odd bit of good advice so far. 

I'd add get him a tonne of exercise, playing at the park and running around as much as possible so he can shake off the extra energy that will contribute to his angst and anxiety.

I would consider putting him on a really strict diet that removes all additives, sugars, fructose and maybe even gluten and milk for a few weeks and see if that makes any difference.

How does he sleep at night? Some children have sleep aponea and are literally starving for a good nights REM sleep. Quality sleep deprivation can contribute to this kind of behaviour.

There is a lot on the Internet about the things I've mentioned.

tairakittie
by Platinum Member on May. 1, 2012 at 10:32 AM
We eat mostly organic. He is a carb fan though, so he usually wants cereal, bread, crackers and fruits. I try to limit his gluten, his bread is normal bread (whole grain) for the time being, but his crackers are nut-thins, almond and rice flour. I got him gluten free organic waffles as well. I dont usually let them eat anything with artificial ingrediants, additives, artifical colors or refined/processed sugars (especially HFCS). They get ovaltine and orange juice (simply orange pulp free), plus lots of raw or frozen fruits. He is very picky and has a very limited diet. I try to limit his dairy as well when I can, DD has an intolerance and cant have too much anyway. We try to get coconut milk and hemp milk when we can afford it. I do need to work on keeping him active. Its been overcast and rainy lately, so we've been stuck inside, we usually go out and jump on the trampoline, but inside we dance around the house and make obsticle courses out of the couch cushions and other random things. He sleeps fine at night as far as I know, usually from about 10pm to 8am (I put him to bed at 8:30, thats just when he falls asleep finally), I try to lay him down around 1:30 for a nap, but he usually wont fall asleep until 2:30 or 3, then sleeps til 3:30/4.

Quoting psuedonym:

There has been the odd bit of good advice so far. 

I'd add get him a tonne of exercise, playing at the park and running around as much as possible so he can shake off the extra energy that will contribute to his angst and anxiety.

I would consider putting him on a really strict diet that removes all additives, sugars, fructose and maybe even gluten and milk for a few weeks and see if that makes any difference.

How does he sleep at night? Some children have sleep aponea and are literally starving for a good nights REM sleep. Quality sleep deprivation can contribute to this kind of behaviour.

There is a lot on the Internet about the things I've mentioned.

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psuedonym
by on May. 1, 2012 at 10:36 AM

You sound rather awesome! Maybe a second opinion from a child mental health expert and in your shoes I would start reading everything I could get my hands on regarding child behaviours and modifications there of.

Best of luck.

Quoting tairakittie:

We eat mostly organic. He is a carb fan though, so he usually wants cereal, bread, crackers and fruits. I try to limit his gluten, his bread is normal bread (whole grain) for the time being, but his crackers are nut-thins, almond and rice flour. I got him gluten free organic waffles as well. I dont usually let them eat anything with artificial ingrediants, additives, artifical colors or refined/processed sugars (especially HFCS). They get ovaltine and orange juice (simply orange pulp free), plus lots of raw or frozen fruits. He is very picky and has a very limited diet. I try to limit his dairy as well when I can, DD has an intolerance and cant have too much anyway. We try to get coconut milk and hemp milk when we can afford it. I do need to work on keeping him active. Its been overcast and rainy lately, so we've been stuck inside, we usually go out and jump on the trampoline, but inside we dance around the house and make obsticle courses out of the couch cushions and other random things. He sleeps fine at night as far as I know, usually from about 10pm to 8am (I put him to bed at 8:30, thats just when he falls asleep finally), I try to lay him down around 1:30 for a nap, but he usually wont fall asleep until 2:30 or 3, then sleeps til 3:30/4.

Quoting psuedonym:

There has been the odd bit of good advice so far. 

I'd add get him a tonne of exercise, playing at the park and running around as much as possible so he can shake off the extra energy that will contribute to his angst and anxiety.

I would consider putting him on a really strict diet that removes all additives, sugars, fructose and maybe even gluten and milk for a few weeks and see if that makes any difference.

How does he sleep at night? Some children have sleep aponea and are literally starving for a good nights REM sleep. Quality sleep deprivation can contribute to this kind of behaviour.

There is a lot on the Internet about the things I've mentioned.


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