am i just behind the times??
Honestly nobody will take you seriously if you say boyfriend/girlfriend. It sounds temporary and puerile. I use SO on here for the most part, but in person and elsewhere, significant other sounds... cold. We don`t use titles with eachother, just names. But yes, I consider him my husband. Also, the requirements for common law status are different everywhere.
And we're married now, 5 years this aug and it's the same as it ever was even before.
So maybe for you it was more serious but for us it's the same amount of seriousness lol.
Quoting CheyanneW:
Having been through a divorce I can say that being married is more serious. Is that why you used the term husband/wife? Were you worried that others wouldn't think you're serious?
Quoting AM-BRAT:
When we had our first, she was a surprise.
We decided to stick it out and be a family. We did get married when she was 1, but until then he always referred to me as wife.
At the time we were 25 and 31. We'd look like idiots if we referred to eachother as baby mama and baby daddy lol. Girlfriend/ boyfriend sounds juvenile and fiance *I* just hate.
It is what it is, and married sounds more serious if you're already a family. As for kids saying husband/ wife I guess that is annoying.
Jmo!
Quoting CreziaMommyTo2:It annoys me to no end... but it has become more and more the norm for boy friends and girl friends to call each other husband or wife.
it is annoying if your not in a commited relationship.
My man and I ARE in a commited relationship, we are not married though. Consider each others children our own, and I am pregnant with our child currently.
We are both divorced though, and occassionly slip up and refer to each other as 'my husband' or 'my wife'.
Joint checking, cars in both names, a kid, etc. so to us it was the same thing.
We didn't even have a ceremony lol. It was all as it was the whole time.
Quoting CheyanneW:
Having been through a divorce I can say that being married is more serious. Is that why you used the term husband/wife? Were you worried that others wouldn't think you're serious?
Quoting AM-BRAT:
When we had our first, she was a surprise.
We decided to stick it out and be a family. We did get married when she was 1, but until then he always referred to me as wife.
At the time we were 25 and 31. We'd look like idiots if we referred to eachother as baby mama and baby daddy lol. Girlfriend/ boyfriend sounds juvenile and fiance *I* just hate.
It is what it is, and married sounds more serious if you're already a family. As for kids saying husband/ wife I guess that is annoying.
Jmo!
Quoting Gossipfoodie28:I'm married now, but wouldn't call him my husband before that. It was matter of principle, put a ring on it and make it legit! Otherwise, you're my boyfriend. Don't have a problem with other people doing it, but my personal preference.
I can't stand the words "hubby" and "wifey". Got on my nerves in high school, still gets on my nerves now.
What are your kids' names and who picked them out?
- Benjamins-mama
on May. 3, 2012 at 6:30 PMin my opinion it sounds ridiculous when somoene calls their boyfriend their husband. um hello if he was your husband you would be married not dating.