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I'm physically sick to my stomach--update

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Shit just got real.
He is going to file for full custody and ask that I only have supervised visitation. He said he'll be using my mental hospitalization to his full advantage. My attorney said he very well may be awarded but she's going to help me fight it.

I've got movers coming tomorrow to pack, and I'll be moving tomorrow.

I'm excited to start a new, healthy, stable life but it's still going to get so much worse.



I went to my attorney today to proceed with the divorce.

Things got UGLY yesterday when him and I spoke. He said a lot of hurtful things to me.

Then today it continued and got 1,0000000x worse.

I can't stop crying. I feel like I'm going to get sick.

I just need some e-love because my heart hurts.
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by on May. 4, 2012 at 1:27 PM
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Ireallydontcare
by on May. 5, 2012 at 2:51 AM

What is wrong with you?

Quoting sweetykitty:

Put your big girl unddies on tough it out. What did you do to deserve the divorce?




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BeAmour
by on May. 5, 2012 at 2:55 AM
Nope he hasn't. He doesn't call, text or see him.

It wasn't an issue in the beginning of all of this. I was to be filing for joint custody and $691 (per their formula) in CS. He flipped his shit saying that he HAS to have 50/50 on paper to recieve BAH Type 2 and he's not going to pay that much for CS and said I'd get what I get.

He's been trying to get me to write up a paper on our "agreement"......I haven't agreed to shit. It's basically his way or he's going to throw a fit.

I told him plainly today what I had written down on my preliminary divorce papers and that was that. That's when he threw out that he's getting a lawyer and filing for full custody.

When I talk to her Thursday, we're going to speak more in depth about the custody issue.


Quoting CABZS:

So he hasn't been taking care of his kids but wants to take full custody?


You really need to fill your attorney in on everything, I'm surprised it wasn't the first thing done.


Quoting BeAmour:

No, no she doesn't know all of that.

We haven't gotten there yet.

I sent my son to live with my parents. The day I admitted myself, I waited for my mom to drive up from Florida and com get him. He's been living with her since. He can't do abandonment because that'll just fall right back on him.



Quoting CABZS:


If your attorney knows all of this I suggest you get a new attorney.



With all of this I can not believe an attorney would say that it would be likely for him to get custody.



Where were the kids while you were in the hospital? Before admitting yourself did you make sure they'd be taken care of?  The main thing I'd be worried about w/that situation is that him & his attorney would try to get you on abandonment.



However, you need an attorney that will actually fight & I'd be a bit worried they aren't going to fight real hard at this point.  Sorry.



Quoting BeAmour:

Ooohhhh yes I have proof. He stole my parents credit card and charged over $2,000 on it and it's stuff only he would be buying. Mom has ALL the records. We don't want to bring that out just yet unless need be because he'll be going to jail because it's a felony due to the amount.

No, I've never had any witnesses. He always played the good husband roll around people.

I was in the hospital due to the abuse and depression. I delt with it by cutting. I cut so much that it became an addiction. He, however, was not around 99% of the time and never saw my cuts for 4 months.

I was at a very, very bad place in my life due to him and I'm the one who realized the problem and that I absolutely NEEDED help. I voluntarily checked myself into the ER. I was in for 12 days and was treated. Not once did he come see me, bring me clothes (had to stay in the clothes I had on when I was walked in for 12 days). He refused to come get me when I was discharged and had to get a taxi home. He didn't come home and check on me for over 24 hrs. I found inappropriate pics on FB of him and a girl who was staying at my house, having wine, sleeping in my bed WHILE I WAS ADMITTED!!!

I had a job, I just quit today because of me moving tomorrow and I plan immediately at looking for a job. I'll be living with my parents for a while and then they are going to buy me a house. I'll be going back to school to finish my degree.




Quoting CABZS:



Do you have proof of him stealing from your parents?




I know emotional and verbal abuse is hard to prove but do you have any proof, witnesses, did you document anything?




If you don't mind, why did you have a mental stay in the hospital? Mentally are you better now & drs will say so?




Do you have money, a job to support the children?




Not trying to be nosey, I just know how hard custody can be.





 







Quoting BeAmour:

I am toughing it out but it still hurts.

I've done nothing to deserve a divorce!

I'M the one filing divorce to a husband is who a habitual cheater, liar, emotionally and verbally abusive. Not to mention a thief, stealing $2k from my parents and also stole $300 from his own sons piggie bank....

Yeah, because I did something.

Just because I'm the one filing doesn't make it hurt any less.





Quoting sweetykitty:

Put your big girl unddies on tough it out. What did you do to deserve the divorce?




 




 





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gum.drop
by on May. 5, 2012 at 2:56 AM
Are you the cutter??
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BeAmour
by on May. 5, 2012 at 2:58 AM
I'm the recovering cutter...


Quoting gum.drop:

Are you the cutter??

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dlnimo
by Silver Member on May. 5, 2012 at 6:18 AM
HUGS to you and good luck.
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VG74
by on May. 5, 2012 at 6:30 AM
Good luck to you. Stay strong with your recovery, share everything with your attorney, do not communicate with your Ex unless it's through your lawyer so he can't manipulate you, and lean on your family for support. You're going to have a tough road for a bit but you will get through it!
EmilyMarshall
by on May. 5, 2012 at 7:28 AM
HUGS


lovelove211
by Silver Member on May. 5, 2012 at 7:29 AM
Hugs
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princessputter
by Silver Member on May. 5, 2012 at 7:31 AM

Hugss Be....  remember .. threats are empty until the are followed through on... take it one day at a time.. one hour.. if you have too.. hang in there..

cherrywaves21
by on May. 5, 2012 at 7:31 AM
((((hugs))))
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