FINALLY i decided to put an end to domestic violence...vent *long* **UPDATE**

[TAC89]

I'm 22 yrs old 2 kids ages 4 and 1.Long story short I met ex when I was 15yrs old he was 17yrs old.we began dating and due to our different race my family did not care for em.when I was 18 I decided to move in short after we found out I was pregnant and also that's when the guy I fell in love with became my abuser.I stayed out of love and also because I had not talked to my family in 2yrs.Finally after 3yrs living together I decided to leave,yet he would still mentally abuse me.last year I got pregnant again and had our son.Yesterday he came to my house and went crazy...even though he has a girlfriend he still wants control over me but I was done with that.he follow with pulling hair and punching me on my face,while holding my son.I got me and my son away and called police.I went to press charges and to get a restraining orde.while doing this I was terrified and couldn't believe I was there,I felt so ashmed for letting this happen for so long.But it was the day that I had to put a stop to it.now its the court I'm scared od....well seeing him there.I can already imagine him staring at me with a piercing stare.

**UPDATE**
First I would like to say thank you for all of you ladies support,I greatly appreciate it. Well I received my court date for the restraining order for the 15th.His mother called to ask about the kids and sneaked in the part that he wants me to call him to talk and that I shouldn't go to court because since he's in the military it will mess things up for him.I didn't call....but I'm still so scared to go to court. And I feel terrible because my son's 1st birthday is on the 17th and I have no plans since all of this came up.It's all I think about now.I really would like to know how the procedure of court will go.just to get an idea so I won't be so nervous.

[mami323]

I have to see my batterer in court to it fuckin sucks and i HAVE TO let my kids go with him for visits ive tried EVERYTHING to stop it and 3 restraining orders denied . :////

[LovelyBugs]

he will be there in court but you can speak to an officer there and let him know your concerns and they can make sure he doesnt mess with you...the glares can be intimadating but thats all they are, looks!!! I'm so glad you were able to leave and are pressing charges, you have no idea how many women change their minds about pressing charges, it lets the abuser know that they can still control you...if you ever need anyone to talk to you can always PM me and I'm sure a lot of other women here as well would be here to support you if you need to talk

[LovelyBugs]

Have you talked with an advocate at a shelter...sometimes they can get things done better than going at it alone

Quoting mami323:

I have to see my batterer in court to it fuckin sucks and i HAVE TO let my kids go with him for visits ive tried EVERYTHING to stop it and 3 restraining orders denied . :////

[mami323]

Quoting LovelyBugs:

Yes I have they can't help me CANT stop a judges order

[meka26]

I am so glad you walked away. Most times staying leads to him killing you or abusing your children.

[dobrd]

TAC89, I'll tell you, from personal experience that, the reason he is still so abusive is that 'YOU' walked away, permanently.. So, since you've gone through all the hard stuff, going to court is a piece of cake.. He can have 20 girls w/him but, it's you who has rejected him forever.. He can't handle this.. You kicked his ass already.. He won't be able to go near you in court. There are Sherif's all around watching.. You can ask one to please watch out for you so he doesn't come near you.. The Sherrif's can detain him while you leave.. All courts do this so, ask one to help you.. This will tell your ex that you aren't afraid of telling the police on him. He'll back off when he knows that when you need to, you will call police on him.. You ask for a restraining order too.. He bothers you, he goes to jail.. He'll know you aren't playing games any more.. Prayers/Goog Luck Honey.. Take Care, Donna....

[PinkyPan]

I appreciate your kind words.

Quoting atyou:

I'm sorry that that happened to you.

Quoting PinkyPan:

Hugs. I am proud of you. My exDH was also abusive and it took years for me to get the strength to go to court and get a restraining order and put his ass in jail. Please know that you are doing the right thing. Stay strong and I wish you peace.

[Robbin74]

    My aunt just left her abuser husband after seven years. She had her first court date a few weeks ago and they were sending him to jail, but then he appealed it. Now she has to wait for another court date to find out what will happen to him. She's been through hell and back with this freak. I hope they lock him up for years. I hope the best for you also.

[boysrablessing]

Good job mama im proud of you! Stay strong for you and those babies its the only thing that matters in life! Please keep us updated and ill pray for this to be as easy as possible for you!