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To the "men" who claim they don't have children with the multiple women you have children with, since you don't claim the child or pay child support, just sign over rights and let a real MAN who is a DADDY take care of the kids, and stop causing stress for the child and the mom. The kids would be much better off without you causing problems in their life.

by on May. 4, 2012 at 6:19 PM
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Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:08 PM

it is black and white.... simple as that. Either you want to be involved or you don't. Fathers still have rights to custody, visitation, etc. Don't give me the bullshit of all mothers have more rights.... I have seen more women have their kids taken from them and given to the fathers where I live than father's losing custody of their kids.

Quoting hautemama83:

Most fathers don't completely wash their hands. Even so like I said father's have little rights as it stands, that's not opinion its fact. If things were considered equal between mothers and fathers everywhere, I'd be more likely to agree with you. But they're not. The major belief held not only through society, but generally also legally is that mothers are more important. The topic just isn't as black and white as you'd like to make it.
Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I don't care about half of the crap that is spewed all over this site.... I have an open mind.... however, if a man walks away from his kids and washes his hands of them because of a "crazy" woman... he's no better than her.

Quoting hautemama83:

Such an open mind you have.



Its crap. Plain and simple. Hearing half the shit that's spewed on here should be proof enough of that.




Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

the real man line is not bullshit.... I don't give a crap what you or any other women say. If a man really wants to be in the kids lives.... he can.

Quoting hautemama83:

That "real man" line is such bullshit. We all know fathers have shit for parental rights already. Throw in a unstable mother that doesn't know boundaries, and dads fucked.





Its not always about being a "real man".








Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Yes I agree with that... but a real man isn't going to stay away just because of a crazy ex... especially if he truely loves his kids. I'm sorry, disagree with me or not. A man is going to fight tooth and nail to see his kids if they truely mean anything to him.

Quoting kansasmom1978:

In some cases the man stays away because the ex girlfriend/wife is crazy and not worth the trouble.  Or they kids are poisoned against them.  It's sad. 





Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:09 PM

ummm no. as soon as he got her pregnant and I found out he cheated... he was gone.... I didn't stay with him... man you have all the knowledge to my life don't you?

Quoting FL2AK:

So you stayed with a cheater. That really isn't a better scenario.


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Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:11 PM

and the man I was with for 3 years he never considered him a dad or father, so I don't count him... he never disciplined him, did anything with him, etc that a Dad would do.

I am real... again, since you know so much about my own life... please please tell me more about my life.

Quoting FL2AK:

Oh please. He has his father, the man you were with for three years and now the current man. You need to get real.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:



Litlmama87
by Platinum Member on May. 4, 2012 at 9:12 PM
I saw the phrase sperm donor used in this post and couldn't even read any further.

You willingly donated the egg.

That phrase irks me so bad.

Rolls eyes @ Real Man.

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mamabirch88
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:13 PM
While I agree, it is actually really expensive to "sign rights over"
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hautemama83
by Nichole on May. 4, 2012 at 9:13 PM
LOL OK so facts mean nothing, simply because of what you've seen?

Sure whatever. Must be nice under that rock.


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

it is black and white.... simple as that. Either you want to be involved or you don't. Fathers still have rights to custody, visitation, etc. Don't give me the bullshit of all mothers have more rights.... I have seen more women have their kids taken from them and given to the fathers where I live than father's losing custody of their kids.

Quoting hautemama83:

Most fathers don't completely wash their hands. Even so like I said father's have little rights as it stands, that's not opinion its fact. If things were considered equal between mothers and fathers everywhere, I'd be more likely to agree with you. But they're not. The major belief held not only through society, but generally also legally is that mothers are more important. The topic just isn't as black and white as you'd like to make it.
Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I don't care about half of the crap that is spewed all over this site.... I have an open mind.... however, if a man walks away from his kids and washes his hands of them because of a "crazy" woman... he's no better than her.

Quoting hautemama83:

Such an open mind you have.



Its crap. Plain and simple. Hearing half the shit that's spewed on here should be proof enough of that.




Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

the real man line is not bullshit.... I don't give a crap what you or any other women say. If a man really wants to be in the kids lives.... he can.

Quoting hautemama83:

That "real man" line is such bullshit. We all know fathers have shit for parental rights already. Throw in a unstable mother that doesn't know boundaries, and dads fucked.





Its not always about being a "real man".










Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Yes I agree with that... but a real man isn't going to stay away just because of a crazy ex... especially if he truely loves his kids. I'm sorry, disagree with me or not. A man is going to fight tooth and nail to see his kids if they truely mean anything to him.

Quoting kansasmom1978:

In some cases the man stays away because the ex girlfriend/wife is crazy and not worth the trouble.  Or they kids are poisoned against them.  It's sad. 





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Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:13 PM

yet you felt the need to respond.... hmmmm

Quoting Litlmama87:

I saw the phrase sperm donor used in this post and couldn't even read any further.

You willingly donated the egg.

That phrase irks me so bad.

Rolls eyes @ Real Man.


celestegood
by Platinum Member on May. 4, 2012 at 9:14 PM

 yeah, my husband is an alcoholic.  But he didn't touch one drop of alcohol until after we had been married for six months, together for a year.

In fact everything was perfect in our lives until he relapsed.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Yes, because we always know they are losers from the get go. Just saying! There are circumstances that happen after years and years.

Quoting FL2AK:

Or women can not make babies with losers also. It takes two.


 

Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:14 PM

and your point? If the mother wants it that bad, she'll save up the money to get it done.

Quoting mamabirch88:

While I agree, it is actually really expensive to "sign rights over"


FL2AK
by on May. 4, 2012 at 9:15 PM
I don't really care what you do. I am just glad that I am not in your position. Even though I have an ex husband he is a great dad, as is my husband. I don't have baby daddy drama.


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:


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