Why do social people have such a hard time understanding the non social?
I do draw the line at going and doing everything my in laws want to do. They are super social and constantly involved in some sort of activity. They want to take the kids places and us as well. And they constantly want to go out to eat with us, ALL of us. They want dh and I, all four of our kids, my parents and my 2 grandmas to come out with them every week. I just can't do it. Its too much. Dh works with his parents in the family business.
Yesterday they asked what he had planned for mothers day. He said he planned to take me out for a dinner just the two of us since we rarely get time alone. His mom said she wanted all of us to go out ( my parents and grandma's too) in the next town to a nicer restaurant than the ones they have here. I don't feel like dealing with a mass of family and mothers day crowds! I would love to just have a nice dinner I didn't cook with dh, even if we order in and watch a movie! Dh told his mom I wouldn't like her idea and she told him I never want to do anything. He told her it was hard on me and stressful. She told him " what's so hard about going out? We do it all the time!".
So now mil is all upset I don't want to do a big thing on mothers day. Dh is mad he can't just do something with just me and I'm miffed that I feel forced to either go out with them or have them over to our house and cook. FIL has dietary restrictions so we can't order in. Oh and my parents and grandparents are also not social so if we go out they aren't even coming! They are happy with a phone call. My inlaws think I am a little rude and a little lazy because I don't like to constantly go go go and socialize. So am I rude? I feel like they just don't understand.