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I was just ticketed for shop lifting!!!**UPDATE**

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Yep you read that right, I am a grown ass fucking woman with two kids who was ticketed and almost arrested for fucking shoplifting!!!

I was at the mall getting stuff for the wedding we have to go to today(which we are now late for thanks to this B.S.)

I went into Herbergers to get DH a tie and DD a dress. I found the tie and was in girls looking at dresses. I kept dropping the tie I had so I tucked it into the other bag I had and kept looking at dresses. I find one and start towards the check out. I put everything up on the counter and pay for it. I turn walk out and half way through the mall I get a man running after me, so I stop. He says he is mall security. He says I need to come with him.

I have no idea what this is about!

We get to a little room and he says that I am being a ticketed for shoplifting a tie!!! Oh shit I forgot the tie in my other bag OMG!!!

So after an hour of me trying to explain and them not believing me, they give me a ticket to appear in court and I get to go home

I am freakin out! I do home daycare and have 2 kids, what am I supposed to do?!?

Has anyone dealt with this before? What happens now? Will this be on my record now? Can I get it off?


So i dont really know much else yet, but i do know that this whole ordeal has really made me look at my life. If i am so unorganized that i have to rush through a store 45 min before a wedding I have known about for months, just to get a tie and dress that i should have gotten weeks ago. AND i am so rushed and stressed that i FORGET to pay for one of the items then i have some major things to adjust in my life. 

This is a horrible way to learn my lesson and i break down everytime i think about what i am going to say to my kids and my family about this. But i am glad that i know have the motivation i need to reorganize my life.

I want to thank those of you who gave such reassuring words and i will be sure to update you guys on this crazy journey....


So i have court today, I will be leaving in a couple of hours. I decided not to get a lawyer, i am just going to go and plead NOT GUILTY and hope for the best! I am so nervous i feel like i am going to throw up! I have never even been in a court house. I dont know what to expect...... I will try to update as soon as i know know something. Keep your fingers crossed for me.


So i just got back from court. They changed the charge from Theft to "concealing unpaid merchandise" which is much better! It is just a petty misdemeanor and isn't considered a crime. I have to pay a $150 fine and nothing will go on my record!!!

I am so glad to be done with all of this and i have definatly learned my lesson.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 5:12 PM
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:17 PM
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Well, you did shoplift so what exactly are you expecting?
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:20 PM
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Well technically you did steal it even if accidently. What were they to think?
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:22 PM
Then you pay a fine and do community service. If it's a first offense it may not go on your record.

Quoting AFWifeNMom:

But what if he doesn't believe me? What then? I have never even had a speeding ticket, I don't know how court even works

Quoting my3boys0710:

You go before a judge andpled your case

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by *Shanny's Stalker* on May. 5, 2012 at 8:23 PM


by Platinum Member on May. 5, 2012 at 8:23 PM
Like my mom always says don't do things that may appear to be bad... Just be honest and explain your situation to the judge
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:24 PM
Its quite common for shoplifters to pay for one item whilst having another (or ten) in their bag. That might not mean much to people who deal with theives on a daily basis.

Quoting jadsmummy:

I wouldn't worry. Get a lawyer, go before the judge and be sincere and honest about what happened. You don't have a history of theft it was a honest mistake. PLUS you paying for another item goes to corroborate your story. It sounds like the mall guy had a big case of big fish little pond syndrome.

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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:25 PM

Just go before the judge and tell him what happened and hope he believes you. So many people steal by putting stuff in other bags. I doubt the judge will believe you.

by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:25 PM

i was accused of shoplifting at kmart.  while walking through the bra section a bra hook got stuck to my sweater somehow. i didnt even notice and i was leaving and the security guard stopped me and made a scene. i was like dont you think if i was going to steal, i would at least try to hide it?

by Platinum Member on May. 5, 2012 at 8:30 PM
The only other thing is you will most likely get a yr ban from the mall and a permanent ban from the dept store.
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by on May. 5, 2012 at 8:33 PM

Quoting mybabyapples:

That was pretty dumb on your part.

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