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Fostering and Adoption...

Posted by on May. 6, 2012 at 6:10 PM
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 So, my husband and I have been talking for almost 5 years about becoming foster parents and possibly adopting through this if the right situation arises..   I am calling tomorrow to get set up for the classes and stuff, but I am excited to be starting this journey!!  I guess I am also a little hesitant though too, just because it is something new and I am not sure what all is going to happen and what I need to do to prepare for the home study and everything...

Have you done it or know anyone who has?  Any advice or stories to tell? 

I appreciate any responses...Thanks!

by on May. 6, 2012 at 6:10 PM
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bamababe1975
by Stephanie on May. 7, 2012 at 10:32 AM

 You should check out this group...

coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on May. 7, 2012 at 10:35 AM
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Last May friends of ours became foster parents to a newborn. The goal was reunification with the biomom but our friends knew the mom was a mess and they would most likely be adopting her. Last week on FB they posted that goal was changed from reunification to adoption so it looks like Ella will be theirs! Good luck to you!
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nkkk07
by on May. 7, 2012 at 10:40 AM
My family did foster care starting when I was 15. It was hard but I don't think my parents (who are now divorced) were the right people to do it. It takes a special family to open thier home and hearts up that way. You also need to be prepared to deal with some difficult behavior problems. Small are usually delayed developmentally, teens are clueless to how to behave. These kids have been in terriable situations ranging from neglect to sexual abuse. My parents just could not see that and expected them to behave like perfect little angels. It drove me crazy. I even went to DHR with one of the foster girls to vouch for her to be moved to a different home because my step mom was so cruel to her. Our DHR office was not the best and often failed the kids. They moved two of our babies to a new home only giving us a days notice after they had been with us for nearly a year. It's was hard because I had bonded with them so much...
It can be a great thing as long as you are prepared and get as much support and information as possiable. But be prepared for a lot of challenges. Good luck and thank you for considering doing something so noble. :)
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dancer
by Silver Member on May. 7, 2012 at 10:43 AM

You know if you foster,the kid or kids do get moved around to different homes.  Also,the home study,you need to show that you can provide the three basic things food,shelter clothing. Also boys and girls need their own bedrooms. the caseworker  will want to see  the bedrooms the kids would sleep in.

Aislin
by MoJo on May. 7, 2012 at 10:47 AM

 You would probably get better answers in the adoption groups. There are some really good ones on here. I have seen some crazy misinformation in  this group.

nas2326
by on May. 7, 2012 at 10:53 AM
We did foster adoption with our youngest daughter and it was the best decision we ever made. When we are ready we will do it again. Our daughter was 6 months when she came home and 1.5 years when the adoption was finalized.
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saltyalley1227
by on May. 7, 2012 at 10:53 AM
Just have a tidy house, they will want any medications to be in a locked container. Obviously no one in your house can have a criminal record. They will do some random checks also so be prepared for that.
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my_babies_n_me
by on May. 7, 2012 at 4:22 PM
I just joined, thanks!!

Quoting bamababe1975:

 You should check out this group...


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my_babies_n_me
by on May. 7, 2012 at 4:23 PM
That's a sad story, but with a wonderful ending!! Good luck to your friends!! And thanks!!

Quoting coolmommy2x:

Last May friends of ours became foster parents to a newborn. The goal was reunification with the biomom but our friends knew the mom was a mess and they would most likely be adopting her. Last week on FB they posted that goal was changed from reunification to adoption so it looks like Ella will be theirs! Good luck to you!
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lil_mama06
by Brian's Lil Vixen on May. 7, 2012 at 4:26 PM

Many of my friends do this..They have adopted 3 children (siblings) And then they experience the heartbreak of the child going back to his family or being moved to another foster family. One of my friends even had to escort a 3 year old (she had her since she was 1) to Cali to be handed back to her parents. It would be hard yet rewarding. Good Luck.

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