A gallon of milk
Box of special k cereal
A loaf of bread
2lbs of hamburger
3lbs of lunch meat
Yogurt
2 bags of chips
I knew they didn't have a lot of money so I was willing to help but also a little annoyed because I feel like she's taking advantage of my kindness. When I dropped off the groceries she thanked me and promised to repay the money she barrowed within 10 days. This all coupled with the stress of dealing with a child who's allergies, asthma and urticaria is acting up. Dealing with paying bills at home, grocery shopping for my family, driving my oldest to his doctor appointment, getting oldest son to karate, second oldest son to piano lessons, cleaning my house, yard work and quality time with dh. Not to mention my sister is just being a drama whore. It's a long story but she is to blame for a lot of our problems. I just want to scream! Okay vent over. Thanks for listening. Any advice, encouraging words or anything would be nice. I need to know I'm not the only one going through a lot and how can I make it through this.
She is taking advantage of you. Or perhaps she knows your a push over.
I am glad you could help your mom. Hopefully she will not have to keep asking you to.
Some people will take advantage of a kind heart. Even parent-people.
You mentioned that she laid on the guilt and you responded to it...this is concerning because it does show that she is manipulating you. Asking is one thing, guilting is another.
You probably would like some boundaries. Define for yourself what you are and are not okay with. Then stick to them. You do not have to JADE>>Justify, Argue, Defend or Explain...just state what you will or wont' do and repeat it. Do not engage--just repeat what you said, ESPECIALLY in the face of guilt and pushing, you will need to just keep saying "......I can do this...." or " I am not comfortable doing ...." WHY is no one's business.
Yes, you are being taken advantage of. If thats okay with you, then no problem. BUT if you don't like it, this is how you stop.
How do I know?? I had to learn the hard way. It works. Just say no, and then keep saying it until you are heard.
If you are a total chicken, just screen her calls. LOL.
Quoting Ollie123:
Quoting onefootcutiepie:
Uh, it's your mother, right? So she raised you and all that, gave birth to you, etc? I'd say you're even.
Mothers should not be relying on their kids to pay bills,buy groceries and all that other bs.
Meh. It's a tough economy out there. When and if my mother needs help, she will ALWAYS find it with me. Hubs feels the same way.
She is asking about her dad ....
If you had to slaughter your own animals, would you still eat meat? Poll included
- Kageegirl
on May. 6, 2012 at 9:29 PM