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If he loses his job....I'm packing our s*** UPDATE

Posted by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:36 AM
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So last night SO drank, staying up pretty late knowing he had to get up at 4 am. Which normally for him is no problem......Well his boss has called 3-4 times, he ignored the call, he left a voicemail...how fucking hard is it to listen to a voicemail....then showed up knocking on the door. I told SO "GET UP!!!! You're gonna get fuckin fired" I get a response of " No I'm not go to sleep"

I'm pregnant & always fuckin tired if I can jump up after an hour of sleep to pack his bag (they were suppose to be working out of town) then someone is is used to getting little sleep can do the same.....

I swear he's fired...why wouldnt he be? And if thats the case Im packing all of our shit (its all mine anyway) & leaving, bcuz all this could be avoided had he woken up like a grown man.



Update: Ok so I was obviously venting & upset. I didn't just pack our shit & leave & couldn't do that to him anyway. I was just upset & needed to bitch it out. I love him very much & even though our child was NOT planned it has changed him for the better.

I've been ill with him lately bcuz he's been drinking a lot & then complaining of not having any money. But I sat there & thought about it this morning & he had a major meltdown around this time last year. His sister ALWAYS does, the past few years have been better but before she checked herself into the aurora a lot. I remember going over & laying in bed with her all day until her husband came home, just so she wasn't alone. I am compassionate, believe me. I didn't even know his other sister & cried like a baby at her funeral. STILL cry thinking of what it must be like for them, how she won't be here to see his first child....its upsetting. I realize he's going through something...she died 5 yrs ago on May 22nd. I guess bcuz I've never had an addiction its hard for me to understand him dealing by drinking when he has a family....His way of dealing for a few years? Doing all kinds of drugs, he's clean now & thankfully away from the area he was doing all that in. He was clean when I met him. I just get over emotional & upset at things. I don't want to be thrown into a situation where me, him, dd & our newborn are stuck at my parents for them to take care of us while he searches for a job....

Oh & apparently the voicemail said that he didn't have to go in today if he didn't need the hours
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ILive4This
by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:38 AM

I wouldn't blame you.   How irresponsible....esp with a baby on the way. Sorry :-(

Justine1123
by Justine on May. 8, 2012 at 5:38 AM
Why didn't you answer the door? Did you just ignore his boss? I don't think I'd stay with someone that wasn't responsible enough to get up for work.
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lovelove211
by Silver Member on May. 8, 2012 at 5:39 AM
I wouldn't blame you
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SOCO101
by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:41 AM

I would too...well I say that. 

Last week, dh and me got in an agument. To make a long story short, he said he wasn't going to work the next day so he'd get fired. That's the kinda shit he pulls "to keep me in line". UGH! Sorry for the rant. 

LadyStork
by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:42 AM
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I woulda picked up the phone and handed it to your so. Or answered the door and made him deal with it. But I'm a bitch like that.
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Young_Mommy89
by Ruby Member on May. 8, 2012 at 5:42 AM
I didnt answer the door....bcuz his boss can be pretty down to earth so I figured he might tell him his phone died or something & keep his job...idk

Hes NEVER like this, no matter what he always jumps up & goes to work, hes a great worker...idk wtf his problem is....I'm waiting for my parents to wake up & probably going there


Quoting Justine1123:

Why didn't you answer the door? Did you just ignore his boss? I don't think I'd stay with someone that wasn't responsible enough to get up for work.
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Candymonster
by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:45 AM
Immature :/ my so has to get up at 5am everyday to work a brutal job he's not use to. He works 55 hours a week minimum, gets only a day of, and is always sore when he comes home. He wants to quit so bad, but he stays for our LO on the way.

Hope your hubble shapes up quick. Sorry for your situation.
Livinwith3boys
by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:49 AM
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Why would you have a kid by a man like that?!?!? You allow that to happen (since you said normally it is no problem, I assume he does it more than this one time) Also, why make your child grow up in a split household just because he got fired for doing something he always does???

Young_Mommy89
by Ruby Member on May. 8, 2012 at 5:49 AM
SO normally works 7 days a week, almost every week, hes always sore & tired....but he ALWAYS goes to work...idk what his problem is this morning

Quoting Candymonster:

Immature :/ my so has to get up at 5am everyday to work a brutal job he's not use to. He works 55 hours a week minimum, gets only a day of, and is always sore when he comes home. He wants to quit so bad, but he stays for our LO on the way.



Hope your hubble shapes up quick. Sorry for your situation.
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Livinwith3boys
by on May. 8, 2012 at 5:50 AM
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Right...I would have answered the door, led his boss into our bedroom, and let him deal with why he didn't get his ass outta bed.

Quoting LadyStork:

I woulda picked up the phone and handed it to your so. Or answered the door and made him deal with it. But I'm a bitch like that.


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