am i overreacting? (about something that happened at my autistic sons daycare)edit

[Cakeysha]

my son was diagnosed with autism back in april.  he is high-functioning. 

his teacher was a special-ed teacher years ago and insists my son doesn't have autism because "she doesn't see it"  all the experts say otherwise but that is another story.

today at his school they had trike day.  every kid brought a trike to ride around the parking lot.  i decided to pop by today and see how he was doing on trike day.  i get there and there are like 20 kids riding around the parking lot having a great time.  my son is standing off to the side looking miserable and about to cry.  i asked him what was wrong and his little face just crumpled.  he was obviously overstimulated and needed to be removed from the situation.  his teacher just said "oh, he didn't feel like riding!"  i took him off by himself and we just talked and stuff until he settled down and after about half the kids went back in he was able to get on a trike and ride for a while.

i am pretty upset that they just ignored his signs of being overstimulated and let him just stand there and be upset.  i am not sure how far to take this.  should i make a big deal about it, or  am i completely overreacting?

i am working on getting them into a new daycare it's just taking time.

thank you for reading

eta he is 3 and a half

[milly88]

BUMP!

[Cakeysha]

BUMP!

[momma2b2008]

I don't think you're overreacting at all. If it were me, I would go straight to the director no and's, if's or but's about it. You are your childs best advocate and since they aren't paying attention to your child it needs to be brought to the directors attention.

Good luck mama!!

[nomadbrat83]

Is this a special needs daycare? Otherwise you are assuming any person should be able to know when your child is overstimulated? My oldest dd had SPD, ADHD, and bi polar and I don't expect all daycare teachers to always know she is overstimulated.

[Logan_Bellasmom]

She had like 20 kids in a parking lot...What was she supposed to do with your son? She couldnt leave them. The other workers couldnt leave them all there either to take just your son back. Put him a special needs daycare who can give him the more one on one he needs.

[nicole1319]

WOW poor kid, I would get him into a diff daycare to! Good Luck Momma!! :)

[Cakeysha]

his teacher wasnt the only one out there with 20 kids obviously

[christina0607]

There were 20 or more kids. the who activity couldn't center around just one child.

[christina0607]

Of course not, but there are still rules to how many teacher are needed per student ratio.

Quoting Cakeysha:

his teacher wasnt the only one out there with 20 kids obviously

[Cakeysha]

it is early headstart.  considering his teacher was a special ed teacher for so many years, i think she would have been able to notice him.  i feel like because she doesn't believe the diagnosis that is why she didn't do anything.

this is all so new to me he was just diagnosed im working on getting him in a different daycare.

this is so hard:(

Quoting nomadbrat83:

Is this a special needs daycare? Otherwise you are assuming any person should be able to know when your child is overstimulated? My oldest dd had SPD, ADHD, and bi polar and I don't expect all daycare teachers to always know she is overstimulated.