I made my 4 year old buy her own.......ETA
Bike. She had been told my her dad and I so many times not to leave her bike behind her dad's truck. One morning, Dh was running late for work, so he just jumped in the truck to leave, and wham, ran right over her bike. So, yesterday, we explained to her that since she didn't listen, she was gonna take all her money that she had saved up, and get her another bike. We asked her multiple times what we were doing, and she was say..." I left my bike behind behind dad's truck, and he ran over it on accident." Then we would ask her how many times had we told her not to leave it there, and she would say 6 times. She owns up to 6, but it was actually more than that. Then we asked her how she was gonna get another bike, and she says, "With my money that I saved up." We also let her know that if she left her bike back there again, and dad runs over it, then we would not buy her another bike. (At least not this summer). Thoughts ladies?
ETA: I was outside with her and her sister the whole time. She was going between her bike and the trampoline, and was told many times that day to put it up. When she ran over to the trampoline, I had assumed she had put it up, and I even asked her and she said yes.
She thought it was a good idea to use her money for a new bike and is happy that it was her money that bought it.
DH leaves for work at 3:30 in the morning, no children are outside for him to worry about. It's a rule, to put toys up, he assumed she had.
What is wrong with teaching a child responsibility, when she knew what she did was wrong?
With every action, there is a consequence, she knows this. After at least 10 times of telling her to put away her bike, her bike should have been put up.
ETA: For the ones who thinks a 4 year old can't have any concept of money, then how come she won't spend a red cent of her money until it is absolutely necessary. She had 2 options when this happened, wait until next summer, or spend her money and have another bike. She knows the concept of money, and saving. She saves every penny that she can find.
And, for the ones who think this is a parenting fail, and think I shouldn't hold my kids responsible when they know they done something wrong. get back with me in 10 years and we'll see how my kids are fairing compared to yours!!!
We live in the country, there is no one around!!
Rules without consequences are never learned!!!