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As thinking human beings at one time or another we are all faced with the reality that one day we will die. We are always aware that we will die, but there are moments when the thought occupies your mind. I felt that way last night. I try to live in the moment, but all it takes is a graduation or a birthday to leave you thinking "where did the time go?" I know many Atheists believe in some sort of an afterlife, but many do not. I believe our energy is transferred but that the consciousness no longer belongs to us. This is not as comforting as the belief of some paradise that I will get to live in for all eternity and wait for my loved ones in. :(

It's certainly not very comforting being an Atheist. I sat there last night thinking about how fast the past 35 years has gone by, and how much faster it seems to go by every year. Thinking about the great surprise party I had for my birthday one year, my god was that really 10 years ago?

I laid there thinking about how one day I'm just going to be gone. Maybe another 35 or 40 years from now, maybe next year who knows? I won't get to miss anyone, because I will just cease to exist. It's so sad nothing matters, but living right now and most of the time we live to plan for the future. When you are someone who believes in after life, there is always a future. For the rest of us....nothing. Wasting time being sad about it only takes up more precious time with the ones we love, but there are days when I just can't help it. There is no one to comfort the Atheist. There is nothing anyone can say to take that sadness away. I love my life, and one day it's just going to be over. 

by on May. 11, 2012 at 2:22 PM
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doomshroom
by Member on May. 13, 2012 at 11:33 AM
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this is beautiful. i feel the same way.

Quoting alwayskk:

I don't feel that way, honestly. It isn't disconcerting to me to think that one day, I will die, cease to exist, and that there is nothing afterwards. It just is. I take comfort in the fact that I existed, that I got the chance, that I lived and made memories, and that I contributed to the only thing that is real: this life. I'm not sure what you meant by, "Its so sad nothing matters." I do not feel that way at all. I feel that it matters. Life matters.


Rain2Rinse
by on May. 13, 2012 at 11:34 AM
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Honestly, I don't care about dying. What use is there in that? I will be ready anyway. I worry about the people I leave behind. But.... I will be dead. So in the grand scheme of things, I guess there is no point worrying about that either. *shrug*
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Apollos82
by on May. 13, 2012 at 11:45 AM
Kitschy, I understand your discomfort and fears. I have been there. I know you weren't posting a question or anything, just sharing a melancholy thought, and that's okay...

One of the "side effects" of denying the existence of a higher power is the lack of relationship with that higher power.

As a Christian, this is the joy I have to look forward go after death:

Revelation 21:4
New International Version (NIV)
4 ‘He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”

I am saddened for you that you feel so alone and futile, and not in an "I'm right, you're wrong" kind of way. I felt that way too. It's not comforting in the least. It is sad and lonely and depressing.

May you find the peace you are seeking, a joy to fill your whole heart, and a bright hope for tomorrow.
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Sassy762
by Emerald Member on May. 13, 2012 at 11:52 AM

Geez what a depressing post......

WOMAN it is Mothers Day.....Cheer UP

KittenKrump
by on May. 13, 2012 at 12:18 PM

Ah! I felt that way before. I don't know, I guess I'm weird in that I find the fact that I won't exist for eternity conforting. I also believe in a sort of reincarnation, the passing on of energy, and I find it much more conforting than I ever was as a Christian. Like I said, eternity scared me sh*tless! :)

Quoting KitschyGirl:

I'm not new to atheism. I just had kind of a big birthday and it made me face my mortality.

Quoting KittenKrump:

Are you new to your atheism? I only ask because those feelings were what plauged me the most when I first realized that there was no god. I understand the pain and confusion, but with time, it gets easier to realize that our life is our experiences. If the heaven of Christianity existed... Well, that thought depresses me. To be perfectly honest, the idea of eternity scared me more than any imagery of Hell ever cooked up at church. I'm not sure what scared me so much about it. And if you're not new but just having an off day, I've been there, just gotta muddle through it until something lifts your spirits :) The funk probably won't last more than a day, maybe two if it's really bad.


twoblues
by on May. 13, 2012 at 12:49 PM
I'm not sure how to word this, but maybe you could find comfort in the possibility that you're wrong. Until you die, you can't really know. Just a thought.

Happy Mother's Day : )
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