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UPDATE #2 (I texted her). The worst bbq I have been invited to (story of my night)

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I need to vent! Really bad! I need to type these words and get this negativity out of my brain.

So a friend invites me to her house for a casual bbq tonight. She is a serious person but can be charming and fun at times also. You just never know what you'll get with her.

So I show up on time. Nothing is prepared. They (friend and her husband) talk to me for a few minutes and we drink some and they go back into the house and leave me on the deck for a long time!! The husband comes out every so often and talks to me more the my friend does. I am holding my daughter and so it's not easy for me to get up and down and walk around because she is small and needs to be held.

My "friend" literally leaves me out there like forever! At one point I when the husband is back in the house with her, I can hear them having a little argument or something. Husband comes back out to greet me but she stays in. This is the most akward social thing I have been to! I felt so disrespected. I finally get my infant calmed and put her down in her carseat and go in and ask if there's anything I can help with. She replies "No". Okay, so I stand around and she doesn't even look up and talk to me. I am standing there trying to make chit chat and she completely just shut down or something. She is really quiet and that's weird.

Then they cook plain chicken breast on the grill, no salt, no nothing. It was weird. And she throws her husband a pack of hot dogs across the yard and he puts them on the grill. Yes, she literally throws the pack across the yard to him as he's standing at the grill. Does she not consider how uncomfortable her behavior is making her guest? Usually when you don't eat dinner because you're invited over for a bbq you expect to eat. And the hot dogs weren't even for us, they were for the kids. I am expected to only eat a plain chicken breast? No seasoning of any kind. We finally get to eating and it's like she is very sensitive and angry about something. She doen't make eye contact, barely says a word, and just pure weirdness. After eating, I asked her where the bathroom was and she gives me all these turns to make in her house, and I go down the wrong hallway and she says in a condescending way "Noooo, that hallway" and points to it. What is her reason for being so condescending to me? I am such a nice, funny person and I just feel like a complete fool that I allowed her to treat me like this and still after all of her quiet pouting and weird behavior, I am still very nice. So at this point I am ready to just leave.

Oh no!! I can't leave now. A storm is coming and the sky suddenly gets dark and it starts raining and thundering and lightening!!!!!!!!!!! I cannot believe at this point that I am stuck her putting up with her weird, disprespectful behavior!! pure torture. I wanted to leave so bad but the rain was so hard and I didn't want to drive in it with my children. So I am forced to stay in their house and put up with her unfriendly behavior. Her husband, poor guy, is trying to be social and trying to inject humor into the evening but she just doesn't budge.

So another one of our friend's show up really late. I am so happy because finally I am not alone with her and her husband and their will be someone else there. It gets better with the other friend there. But at this point I am just ready to go. She can see I am holding my infant and my arms are really tired (i even complain that my arms are getting tired) and she offers to give her carrier to this other friend and her baby, not me! I was there for 2 hours before the other person arrived and now I realize she has a carrier and didn't even offer it to me. I am literally so tired from holding my infant that i have to go and sit on her couch. She leaves me there and stays in the kitchen almost all night. If I had a guest in my house, I would be social and make them feel wanted and comfortable. She just completely ignores me. It is very rude that anyone would do that to a friend.

My son see's the cupcakes she has sitting out on the counter and he keeps asking me for one. I say "No honey, they're not ready to serve them yet. Just wait". She can literally hear me say this and she doesn't even say "Ohh, go get one" or "He can have one". She just let's him sit there all night and wait on a damn cupcake. The poor husband wants to give him one but he doesn't want to do it without her approval. Weird! In my house, if a kid asks for something that is intended to be served, we are all done eating, I would give him/her one. It's like she has a power control issue with food and cupcakes, and her husband. It's a bit hard for me to put into words, but I hope you get the drift.

I will NEVER EVER EVER go back to her house. And I think I am done dealing with her weird moody ways. I will silently let her go.

***update-Let me add this part--When I finally ( after 4 hours) had the balls to say, alright I have to go, her husband tried to kiss my hand. I jokingly pretended I just met him and I wanted to shake his hand to say "nice to meet you"..We shook and then he pulled my hand up to his face and tried to kiss it. Then when I pulled it away, he said, okay shake it again. So I shook his hand again and he tried to kiss it AGAIN!!!!!!! I played it off and said "oh you're drunk" and laughed and walked away. That was a little weird because I'm sure my friend didn't appreciate that. Even though she was a complete bitch to me the whole night, she didn't deserve to see her husband try to kiss my hand twice.


UPDATE #2-So, I texted her the other day and told her that I thought she was very standoffish towards me at the BBQ at her house and was anything wrong? She said she was fighting with her husband. She said it very non-chalantly and didn't even apologize or show any care at all that she made me sit there for 2 hours wondering wth was going on. She basically brushed me off in the text. So, I am really close to deleting her from my Facebook. I want to be sure it is not me being unreasonable. Would you delete her?


10 year old and 3 month old...it doesn't get any better than this!big smile mini

by on May. 12, 2012 at 12:48 AM
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Due9
by on May. 12, 2012 at 1:01 AM

She is so out! like my sister said, drop her like a hot plate :)

Quoting NewMama28:

Wow cut her out of your life immediately. That's just the rudest thing ever.


10 year old and 3 month old...it doesn't get any better than this!big smile mini

Pnukey
by on May. 12, 2012 at 1:03 AM

That does not sound fun at all. She probably thinks you were making a move on her man or something . . standing there and talking and all that.

Due9
by on May. 12, 2012 at 1:03 AM

Then you know what I mean. I just assume that when I invite people over for a bbq there are different things and lots of food. I was just surprised that i was expected to eat a plain chicken breast. And I don't even like chicken but was so hungry that I made myself take a few bites.

Quoting tennisgal:

Interesting. That sucks that you had a poor time. 

We went to a friend's house for a BBQ and they made hamburgers...that's it. Nothing else, I'm not a huge meat eater, so I usually kind of rely on the other side dishes. I asked if I could bring anything, she said no, so we just brought some drinks. It was so odd. lol. 


10 year old and 3 month old...it doesn't get any better than this!big smile mini

LizzieAnnesMom
by ☆Mrs.Winchester☆ on May. 12, 2012 at 1:04 AM

yeah that was pretty rude. I would honestly write her a message and let her know how I feel and how much of a douche she was. Then I would let her go.

Due9
by on May. 12, 2012 at 1:04 AM

I really don't need that kind of immaturity. I was holding my 4 month old infant from my husband. She needs to get her mind checked if that was the issue.

Quoting Pnukey:

That does not sound fun at all. She probably thinks you were making a move on her man or something . . standing there and talking and all that.


10 year old and 3 month old...it doesn't get any better than this!big smile mini

Due9
by on May. 12, 2012 at 1:06 AM

Honestly, I am downright afraid to get a cussing, nasty email back from her. I just hate confrontation. But I don't want to allow anyone to push me around either.

Quoting LizzieAnnesMom:

yeah that was pretty rude. I would honestly write her a message and let her know how I feel and how much of a douche she was. Then I would let her go.


10 year old and 3 month old...it doesn't get any better than this!big smile mini

nicole6870
by on May. 12, 2012 at 1:11 AM
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Idk. Maybe her DH pissed her off. Maybe he said something about you and she took it the wrong way. Maybe they were fighting and she just shut down. Who knows. It could be a million things. I'd ask her flat out what was going on.
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LizzieAnnesMom
by ☆Mrs.Winchester☆ on May. 12, 2012 at 1:12 AM
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After you write her and send it, block her email or flag it as spam. That way anything she sends you will go straight to your spam folder and if you are anything like me you will never see it. I just automatically dump that folder, never look through it.

Quoting Due9:

Honestly, I am downright afraid to get a cussing, nasty email back from her. I just hate confrontation. But I don't want to allow anyone to push me around either.

Quoting LizzieAnnesMom:

yeah that was pretty rude. I would honestly write her a message and let her know how I feel and how much of a douche she was. Then I would let her go.






LostTheSlipper
by Bronze Member on May. 12, 2012 at 1:14 AM

Did you show up at the wrong time? I was even going to suggest maybe the wrong night, but since the other person showed up I doubt it. Sounds weird.

connie45
by Gold Member on May. 12, 2012 at 1:16 AM
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I'd be more pissed about the lack of food.  If the husband and wife want to be angry with each other during a gathering - then fine, but damnit  - there is no excuse for a lameass, food deprived party!

 

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