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Wow... My pediatrician asked me if my kids have the same father... *Edit - pic added* *2nd pic added*

I took my kids to the doctor today..  my baby boy had his 2 year check up, and my baby girl has had a cough for almost two weeks, so I made them both an appt on the same day.

Their regular doc was out of town, so we saw his partner, who they have never seen before.

My  youngest two are 13 months apart, and my son is pretty big for his age.  He is 37 inches tall and 35lbs and just turned 2 on Saturday. 

My daughter is 10.5 months old, and has always been on the smaller side.  She is 26 inches long, and not quite 17lbs. 

The doctor measured and weighed them both, and then plotted them on the growth charts, and looked at me with a puzzled look on his face, and said "Do both of your children have the same father?  Their growth patterns are almost completely opposite, and that's not usually typical of siblings with the same parents."

When I responded "Yes, they do"...  he seemed even more puzzled, and said "Are you positive?" 

OMG!!!!!!  I almost walked out.... 

There's really no point to this story, I just needed to share.  I'm soooo irritated!!!!!!!!!!

**EDIT**

This is a pic I took of the two little ones today.  They are thirteen months apart.  He turned two on Saturday, and she will be one the beginning of July.  To me, their size difference is not that huge, and she definitely is not unhealthily small...  She's just short.  Nothing about them warrants a "do they have the same father... are you positive?" response from a pediatrician.

*** EDIT 2 ****

Here is a pic of me and their dad for reference...  He is about 6'4" and I'm 5'1" (I'm wearing boots with a heel in this pic).  He is very big, and I'm on the smaller side.  Their regular pediatrician has seen both of us, and has no concerns about either of their growth patterns.  It's pretty obvious that the boys take after him, and our daughter takes after me.  Both of our heights are recorded in all three children's charts, as well as their familial history.  It would have been very easy to flip back a couple pages in the chart and see all that information if he had his doubts. 

by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:21 PM
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Logan_Bellasmom
by Falling Starr on May. 15, 2012 at 2:32 PM
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this.....you are overreacting totally

Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.


inmybizz
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:33 PM
12 moms liked this

I can understanding asking the question, but the "are you positive" takes the cake..LOL!!

MyLittlePwny
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:33 PM
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I don't see where a child falls on a little chart is medically necessary to pry and then second guess the mother.  That's just rude.  If there's nothing medically wrong, then he was being a rude asshole.

Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.



WesAndNicksMom
by Silver Member on May. 15, 2012 at 2:34 PM


Quoting Logan_Bellasmom:

this.....you are overreacting totally

Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.


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LoriLou75
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:35 PM

I don't see the big deal, he had a reason to ask.

saltyalley1227
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:36 PM
Wow. I'd be pissed.
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.KFeatherable.
by Bronze Member on May. 15, 2012 at 2:36 PM
I would understand that BUT......
No child is the same!!! And parents family are not the same!

I would have left or gave him a little piece of my mind!


Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.

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Logan_Bellasmom
by Falling Starr on May. 15, 2012 at 2:37 PM
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Easy if they are really off its a sign that one of the children might have a growth problem

Quoting MyLittlePwny:

I don't see where a child falls on a little chart is medically necessary to pry and then second guess the mother.  That's just rude.  If there's nothing medically wrong, then he was being a rude asshole.

Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.



katie2007709
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:37 PM
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No ... he was just being an ASS and had my pediatrician asked me then second guessed me id be done taking kids there ...


Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.


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coleysmama
by Lisa on May. 15, 2012 at 2:37 PM
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There are different conditions to look for if not hitting certain marks on height and weight, especially compared to siblings with the same parents. It's genetics.

He could have reacted that way because something is really off.

Instead of being offended I'd be happy that I have a dr that's actually paying attention to detail and  thinking outside the box a bit.

Quoting MyLittlePwny:

I don't see where a child falls on a little chart is medically necessary to pry and then second guess the mother.  That's just rude.  If there's nothing medically wrong, then he was being a rude asshole.

Quoting coleysmama:

He gave you a legitimate reason for asking. He seemed to be concerned about  something. I wouldn't be offended.Its part of a child's medical history.

It is a question that I've been asked also by doctors for my last child because of different issues he's had.



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