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Wow... My pediatrician asked me if my kids have the same father... *Edit - pic added* *2nd pic added*

I took my kids to the doctor today..  my baby boy had his 2 year check up, and my baby girl has had a cough for almost two weeks, so I made them both an appt on the same day.

Their regular doc was out of town, so we saw his partner, who they have never seen before.

My  youngest two are 13 months apart, and my son is pretty big for his age.  He is 37 inches tall and 35lbs and just turned 2 on Saturday. 

My daughter is 10.5 months old, and has always been on the smaller side.  She is 26 inches long, and not quite 17lbs. 

The doctor measured and weighed them both, and then plotted them on the growth charts, and looked at me with a puzzled look on his face, and said "Do both of your children have the same father?  Their growth patterns are almost completely opposite, and that's not usually typical of siblings with the same parents."

When I responded "Yes, they do"...  he seemed even more puzzled, and said "Are you positive?" 

OMG!!!!!!  I almost walked out.... 

There's really no point to this story, I just needed to share.  I'm soooo irritated!!!!!!!!!!

**EDIT**

This is a pic I took of the two little ones today.  They are thirteen months apart.  He turned two on Saturday, and she will be one the beginning of July.  To me, their size difference is not that huge, and she definitely is not unhealthily small...  She's just short.  Nothing about them warrants a "do they have the same father... are you positive?" response from a pediatrician.

*** EDIT 2 ****

Here is a pic of me and their dad for reference...  He is about 6'4" and I'm 5'1" (I'm wearing boots with a heel in this pic).  He is very big, and I'm on the smaller side.  Their regular pediatrician has seen both of us, and has no concerns about either of their growth patterns.  It's pretty obvious that the boys take after him, and our daughter takes after me.  Both of our heights are recorded in all three children's charts, as well as their familial history.  It would have been very easy to flip back a couple pages in the chart and see all that information if he had his doubts. 

by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:21 PM
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lovebeingmrs
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:52 PM
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I would have talked to the office manager
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styler7
by Gold Member on May. 15, 2012 at 2:54 PM
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I had a nurse ask me the same question about my youngest two.
And, they are twins!!
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Orbie1985
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:56 PM


Quoting mama2KiraEthan:

Wow, the nerve of that doctor.

THIS

_WC_Mama
by on May. 15, 2012 at 2:56 PM

Wow that is so crazy,the nerve of some people,I would have said something,hope your Daughter feels better & hope his 2 year check up went well.

Ms.Pteranodon
by Bronze Member on May. 15, 2012 at 3:00 PM

My 5 month old weighs more than 17 lbs... LOL he's a chunk.

My almost 3 year old was the same height and weight as your DS on his 2yo check up.

I honestly thing kids are just getting bigger these days. DS is suppose to be in the 99 percentile, but yet every mom I know (except for a handful whose kids are on the opposite end)  says the same thing!!!!

That being said... my 5 month old and my 3 year old have different moms and different dads - they are not genetically related at all - I get told on a daily basis how much they look alike. And they really do.


jadsmummy
by on May. 15, 2012 at 3:01 PM
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Can't blame him really. The amount of partners which cheat is outrageous its so not uncommon anymore. Its offensive for a woman of morals to have that suggested but when you think about how much it happens it puts it into perspective.
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lovemy3littles
by on May. 15, 2012 at 3:01 PM

Again, it's not so much that he asked.  I could almost understand him questioning it if all that information was't already in their charts. 

It was that after I told him yes, he asked me if I was positive.  Like somehow, I didn't know, or was mistaken.  It was just the unprofessional way he handled it that really ticked me off.

Quoting LucyHarper:

Well, it's a medically relevant question, not all kids do and he wanted to be sure to explain their growth patterns.


Ashiopeia
by on May. 15, 2012 at 3:01 PM
Funny story, my older three kids are an adopted sibling set. I'm white but gypsy/native american so darker with dark eyes and black hair, my three kids are Hispanic but lighter and not Ameri-Indian looking at all and between me and their adoptive father they really look like a combination of "us" and most people are shocked to find out they're adopted. They've been seeing the same doctor for over three years and now I'm taking my youngest who's my bio child there as well. He has dark eyes but very blond hair (I did when I was really young too). It's funny to me that EVERY time we are in her office she points out that he doesn't look like them and asks about it! She KNOWS they're adopted it's in their charts but still forgets every time and always thinks its weird that ds looks different.
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MicheleJM
by Platinum Member on May. 15, 2012 at 3:02 PM
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He could have asked differently...like just said I ask because the growth patterns are so different, there might be genetic factors, blah blah. I swear some docs have all the bedside manners of a chimp.


Quoting inmybizz:

I can understanding asking the question, but the "are you positive" takes the cake..LOL!!


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MrsImperfect
by on May. 15, 2012 at 3:03 PM
Different fathers doesnt mean shit. Only time it matters about who the parent is is when there is some hereditary issue. Otherwise it doesn't matter.
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