im guess im going to have to get a guardian al item...EDIT
and thats fine...but i wish i didnt need to...
stbxh and i have been fighting back and forth about placement with our dd....
he doesnt use the time he is supposed to have her anyways but wants to fight with me over 5050.... right now we have 5050 as a temp order but he hasnt seen her since 3-31. and he wont see her till june...maybe (COMPLETELY HIS CHOICE BTW)
I WAS really hoping that at our next court date that we would just be divorced and have everything settled...but idk if thats going to happen. because of me.
he has finally agreed to me having majority placement and dd going to school here when she gets to that age...
but he doesnt want to pay any cs. which he doesnt now! but he wants it closed and wants no financial obligations to dd at all.... and while yes i would agree to it because i am the more stable home...i am already supporting dd fulltime anyways...idk if the judge/courts will allow this and i feel like the judge might look down on me for agreeing to this....
idk...i dont want to be difficult, i even told stbxh i would agree to let go of his arrears (1200) and agree to him being on a low income level of cs (75 a month only) but no
it has to be no cs and i get dd full time or we get a guardian al item... am i being unfair?
i have some time to think about this....
EDIT: OK SORRY I WAS TIRED AND STRESSED LASTNIGHT WHEN I WROTE THIS..... OK... SO
1. HE WAS ORDERED IN NOV 2011 TO PAY 257 A MONTH IN CS AND HAVE DD EVERY OTHER WEEKEND.
2. WE HAVE HAD ISSUES OF HIM HAVING DD SINCE DAY 1 OF VISITATION, HE DIDNT HAVE A LICENSE FOR A WHILE, HE WOULD CHANGE TIMES, BRING HER HOME EARLY, CANCEL LAST MIN, HIS GF KICKED HIM OUT 2X WHILE DD WAS THERE AND SO I HAD TO GET HER..1 TIME AT MIDNIGHT...SMH.
3. THE JUDGE KNOWS ALL THIS ALREADY BUT IN MILWAUKEE JUDGES WILL NOT CHOOSE WHAT IS BEST FOR THE CHILD. IDK WHY ITS LIKE THAT, BUT THEY GET A GAL.
4. I AM WILLING TO LET THE ARREARS BE DROPPED (IF I MUST) OR BE TAKEN TO A LOWER AMOUNT SINCE HE WASNT WORKING FOR A WHILE.
5. I PROPOSED THAT HE PAY THE LOW INCOME OF CS. WHICH IS 75 A MONTH ACCORDING TO THE CS WEBSITE. BUT HE SAID NO. HE WANTS NO CS.
6. I *WAS* CONSIDERING IT JUST ON THE FACT THAT I AM SO SICK OF PUTTING OFF THIS DIVORCE AND I FEEL I CANT MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE UNTIL WE ARE DIVORCED. HE DOESNT PAY CS ANYWAYS CUZ HE JOB JUMPS, AND I KNOW THAT HE WILL EVENTUALLY NOT CALL, TEXT, SEE DD AT ALL AND THEN A YEAR LATER I WILL BE TERMING HIS RIGHTS SO HE CANT JUST COME IN AND OUT OF OUR LIVES AS HE CHOOSES. I BELIEVE A PARENT IS EITHER ALL IN OR ALL OUT. NOT HALF ASSED.
HE DID THAT TO HIS OLDEST AND SHE HATES HIM SO MUCH FOR IT (SHES 6) AND I DONT WANT THAT FOR DD. I KNOW MANY OF U WILL KNOW WHAT I MEAN. ANY OTHER QUESTIONS ASK :)
(FYI WE HAVE NO LAWYERS CANT AFFORD THEM)