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what do I do???? I know I cant say anything

Posted by on May. 21, 2012 at 9:44 AM
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Ok heres the deal. My step dad came into my life over 20 yrs ago. He has helped me and DH out so much. Hes always been there for me not havin my dad. There have been times where we havent gotten along. He would sometimes play favorites with his real DD. But anyways no big deal. Well about a yr ago he had to file bankruptcy and me and DH have been givin him money to help him out since hes always been there for us. Well I just found out the other day that my SS and her DH are gettin money from him. Im pissed!!!! Niether one has a job but yet they get money from him to go get tattoos, go to casinos, and god knows what else. The spend it on other stuff too. Thats why she cant get a job. They have 2 DD. But what can I do??? Not a damn thing. I guess I just need to vent. It just pisses me off that his own flesh and blood takes advantage of him like that!! My and my sister have never done that too him. Me and DH are just tryin to repay him for all that he has done for us. It just makes me wanna move him in with us so they can no longer do that to him. And you cant tell him anything cause he is blind to it. I guess I just have to keep my mouth shut as usual. Well thanks for lettin me vent and sorry it was so long!!!!
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gypsy_rose
by Ruby Member on May. 21, 2012 at 9:46 AM

so essentialy...your paying your SS and her DH if your giving SD money....

Juanita679
by on May. 21, 2012 at 9:49 AM
Bump!


angierose7679
by Angie on May. 21, 2012 at 10:08 AM

Yeah I guess so and its not right at all...I guess Im just gonna have to stop givin him money but thats not gonna do anything but hurt him. I dont wanna be supportin their bad habits

Quoting gypsy_rose:

so essentialy...your paying your SS and her DH if your giving SD money....



angierose7679
by Angie on May. 21, 2012 at 10:09 AM

thanks

Quoting Juanita679:

Bump!



JustCJ
by Charlotte on May. 21, 2012 at 10:10 AM
Wait, you said you were paying him back for money you borrowed. It's his to do as he pleases.

Quoting angierose7679:

Yeah I guess so and its not right at all...I guess Im just gonna have to stop givin him money but thats not gonna do anything but hurt him. I dont wanna be supportin their bad habits

Quoting gypsy_rose:

so essentialy...your paying your SS and her DH if your giving SD money....


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LexRi0709
by on May. 21, 2012 at 10:13 AM
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Instead of giving him cash, offer to pay his bills, or buy him groceries. That way you know the money is going to him, and I'm assuming he needs it since he filed bankruptcy.
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angierose7679
by Angie on May. 21, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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Im talkin about about repayin him for all that he has done for us. Not just money....Weve already paid back what we owe him a long time ago. Im just talkin about helpin him since he has always been there for me and my kids and DH and just tryin to help HIM in general....We dont owe him money. We are just tryin to help him out since he has none but my SS is takin all hes got

Quoting JustCJ:

Wait, you said you were paying him back for money you borrowed. It's his to do as he pleases.

Quoting angierose7679:

Yeah I guess so and its not right at all...I guess Im just gonna have to stop givin him money but thats not gonna do anything but hurt him. I dont wanna be supportin their bad habits

Quoting gypsy_rose:

so essentialy...your paying your SS and her DH if your giving SD money....




lynnd4
by on May. 21, 2012 at 10:16 AM
I agree with this and I would be frustrated too.

Quoting LexRi0709:

Instead of giving him cash, offer to pay his bills, or buy him groceries. That way you know the money is going to him, and I'm assuming he needs it since he filed bankruptcy.
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angierose7679
by Angie on May. 21, 2012 at 10:17 AM

Thats what Ive thought about doin. I give him gas money so he can come and visit me and the kids from time to time. Yes he does

Quoting LexRi0709:

Instead of giving him cash, offer to pay his bills, or buy him groceries. That way you know the money is going to him, and I'm assuming he needs it since he filed bankruptcy.



CDMelty
by Silver Member on May. 21, 2012 at 10:18 AM

Stop giving him money and instead pay his bills, or buy his groceries. Do stuff that your ss can't hijack.

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