Why now??? Ugggg 1 month to prepare ugggg!!!!! Long and Need HELP!!!!!!
Ok back story I left my ex when DD was 1 and DS was 3. My ex had become abusive prior to me leaving and I was trying to leave even while pregnant with DD.
The ex barely saw the kids and when he did he was the Disneyland type of parent though he always treated DD like shit.
In 2004 my mother got ill and I asked my ex if I could leave state to tend to my mother he said no. I had to go to court while dealing with court I got an offer to move to Hawaii so I put that in the paper work also. At this time my ex's rights were basically taken away. I left state Good Friday 2005. While I was away I kept the lines of communication open for the kids.
2008 I moved back to where I was from remarried but still keeping lines open. My ex had moved out of state and showed know intrest in seeing the kids. Mind you he still hasn't seen the kids since 2005!!!!
Fast forward its May 2012. DD is now 11 almost 12 DS is 13 almost 14. Neither of them want to speak to their bio father though I do all I can. They both of cell phones and I suggest every Sunday for them to call him. I am not going to force the subject.
Now my ex has decided he wants to drive from his state force the kids to stay with him a night or 2 in a hotel and be daddy to them.
DD is freaking out. By mistake she left her phone at home today and I looked through her phone I find a txt to one of her girlfriends about what is going on. The girl is freaked.
He will be here in less then a month. The state I am in will take 6 to 8 weeks for them to even move my court case to the location I am at. An going off the original visitation papers he has done everything other then the written letter that is required.
I have no clue what to do or what to say. My ex is a flight risk and has been in trouble with the law but due to the papers I think I have to force my child who is freaked to stay with this man she doesn't know.
Ladies help what to do????
I sat on the phone today trying to contact the courts. Finally got through to my local Family court and they said "oh know one told you that you have to file in your orginal county" WTF ok called the orginal county "sorry ma'am either you fly here or move back here we don't care if you have a move away order you must speak to the judge" WTF Ok is there anyway I can file for move of courts yeah print the 48 page packet send it to use and we'll see about getting you a phone hearing WTF.
Ladies I am soo stressed. DD did not want to go to school she is scared he is going to show up and just take her. I spoke to my ex today and he stated he filed some thing with the courts and that I need to sign and agree or else!!! He wouldn't tell me what it was just need to sign, agree or else!!!