my beloved aunt went to the hospital Sunday. Today we found out that she has cancer in her liver, lung and pancerus. i tell him and he goes, " oh, she's dead." so i say, really? can you not have compassion for me.
what does he say, " am i going to have to deal with you being sad for seven months?"
what the fuck? am i not allowed to be sad? Im so pissed at him right now.
what would you say to him?
i did just walk away because i dont even know what to say. i understand its cancer and she is going to die but am i not allowed to be sad?
Mine does not deal with things the way I do. I have to remember to engage my brain before my mouth at those moments.
Mine wouldn't even reply. Mainly because he's use to hearing that kind of bad news from me.
OK OK if he did he'd say... "I'm sorry. What do you want me to do?"
I'd be shocked. DH is not like that at all and has great compassion for others, especially those close to him. What's the rest of your relationship like?
In my 20's I would told him to fuck off and it's possible something could go flying near his head. I am not so confrontational now.
OP I hope that he apologizes and comforts you like he should.
Quoting krayzbabylove:
Me too.
Quoting taKENheart:
At that moment I probably wouldn't say anything. I can see myself walking away in tears. I'm sorry he was insensitve. Is that behavior out of the ordinary?
Quoting lucky2Beeme:What a douche response from him. Why couldn't he say something along the lines of I am sorry. I know you are upset. I wish I could take your pain away. I am here for you. Of course you are allowed to be upset. I am sorry he is such a callous asshat !
Quoting taKENheart:In my 20's I would told him to fuck off and it's possible something could go flying near his head. I am not so confrontational now.
OP I hope that he apologizes and comforts you like he should.
Quoting krayzbabylove:
Me too.
Quoting taKENheart:
At that moment I probably wouldn't say anything. I can see myself walking away in tears. I'm sorry he was insensitve. Is that behavior out of the ordinary?
Yeah, it's funny now...sure wasn't then.
Quoting krayzbabylove:
Haha, it it was my ex, when I was younger I would have done the same things.. haha
Quoting taKENheart:
In my 20's I would told him to fuck off and it's possible something could go flying near his head. I am not so confrontational now.
OP I hope that he apologizes and comforts you like he should.
Am I overreacting or? Eta and small update
- summerlove3677
on May. 22, 2012 at 7:57 PM