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is it ok for your spouse to text his co workers? update: So here it goes again in BLUE

Posted by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:14 AM
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Question: Is it ok for your Spouse to text co- workers?

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So would you be upset if your spouse was texting his co-workers ?

so I found myself having to load my family (kids) in the car and my dh is texting away on his phone mind you I have three children , the youngest less then 2 having to get them all loaded up grab diaper bag ect , and my dh is already in the car with his cell phone in tow texting yep you guess it one of his co workers , I'm like who are you texting that is so important he hesitated at first and said (XXXX) name and it was one of his co workers , she just broke up with her fiance and apparently she was needing help moving some things . I said what the heck we are on our way to go eat and he is texting this women, like he is some type of super hero or something (insert chuckle here) , I told him, I was pretty upset about it and he said he wouldn't do it again well he left his phone out in the car last night so I went out there and sure enough he was texting her again  im not trying to pry in his buisness but he is my spouse and I think I have a right to know what is going on I would think I would have the right to know, to help her move some things!

So I feel like he is keeping things from me and like I shouldn't be upset about it!

I guess im making a big deal out of it . He was like I cant just ignore them , I have to work with these people and try to make them happy!

Well doing things outside of work is not a good ideal to me but that is just me! maybe im wrong but I dont know!

 

I know I was wrong in checking his phone but wouldn't you be upset if your spouse was doing things behind your back?

 

How would you feel about it ?

Tell me its not going to hurt my feelings just be honest am I being wrong just let me know and I'll just leave it at that!

Also he works with is mainly women!!

Update: Well I got my call log from May2nd until now June 7th to one number on the list there has been 129 text message incoming and outgoing to that number alone!

 

by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:14 AM
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Michellina11234
by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:17 AM
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mine does it all the time, though most of it is work related. Never bother's me unless we are eating. But I realize that is the nature of his job. 

rgba
by Gold Member on May. 23, 2012 at 10:18 AM
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I think it would bother me enough to have a thoughtful conversation about it. Find out more about her, ask if he knows why she is texting him (why him instead of someone else). Ask if he thinks she is interested in him, and what kinds of things they are talking about.

Any therapist will tell you that open, nonaccusatory conversations are the best way to affair proof your marriage.







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CrystalPystol
by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:19 AM
I don't have a problem with my SO texting his co workers. They are guys. He does work with a couple females but has never text them.
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Paperfishies
by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:19 AM
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Female co-workers- ONLY if it's about work...I actually blocked one of his female co-workers because she is the needy type who always wants to make small talk, just for the sake of it.

 

RobinBright
by Gold Member on May. 23, 2012 at 10:20 AM
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Texting a coworker is fine, but slacking off with the kids would bother me, as would lying about who he was texting-- though, I would not know he was lying, because I wouldn't go through his phone.
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msparks80
by Member on May. 23, 2012 at 10:20 AM
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Tell your husband that you dont mind him texting its just not ok when you need help with the kids. He should have helped you get settled in the car before he answered her back. Tell him when he is off you and the kids are the priority. My husband just sits in the car waiting for me to load the kids and everything :-( pisses me off!
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vegepunkstr
by Gold Member on May. 23, 2012 at 10:21 AM
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It wouldnt bother me unless he was trying to hide it from me. Usually if someone needs help or something he will tell me about it and ask if I mind if he goes and helps them (not for permission but to make sure we dont have other plans).



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pause_25
by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:21 AM
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I would totally be all for that hun , but this is about helping her outside of work , to help her move or something!! also jumping in the car already and leaving it to me to load the children up to get in a texting match with this lady I thought was really rude that it seemed like he was more concerned with her then his family!


Quoting Michellina11234:

mine does it all the time, though most of it is work related. Never bother's me unless we are eating. But I realize that is the nature of his job. 


laurenb1
by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:21 AM
All of his coworkers have been friends with him since highschool so they text him daily. The only female is the secretary and shes middle aged and wicked nice so if he texted her I wouldnt really care
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misstaylor85
by on May. 23, 2012 at 10:22 AM
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I wouldn't care, the only thing that would annoy me is trying to wrangle 3 kids and him sitting and not even asking if he can help. Other then that I don't care.

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