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I've been too nice *CS post... oh my*

Posted by on May. 26, 2012 at 10:27 PM
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I left my STBX Dh several months ago. I felt sorry for him and allowed him to keep the house and didn't ask anything of him. I had hoped he'd contribute willingly. That has not been the case.

He is in over his head financially simply because he lives outside of his means. For this reason I'm grateful he never allowed me to have my name on anything. He was controlling but that protected my credit while he destroyed himself.

Now, however, I realized I need to stop being so kind for the sake of the kids. I need to get a CS order, no matter how much he complains.

It cannot always be about him, as it was for the last ten years. I really must gain some strength to be tough here.

Before anyone asks we are doing fine, but the extra money would help with trips, fun things for the children, and go into their accounts. It is also the principle of thing.

"What is a man, if chief good, and market of his time be but to sleep and feed? A beast, no more."  Hamlet

by on May. 26, 2012 at 10:27 PM
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alwayskk
by on May. 26, 2012 at 10:28 PM
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Go for it.

epoh
by on May. 26, 2012 at 10:29 PM
Do it, mama. It took me a while to be able to, as well.
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morrigan914
by Silver Member on May. 26, 2012 at 10:30 PM
He should be helping support HIS kids. Then again my ex doesn't pay child support.

kcook55
by Platinum Member on May. 26, 2012 at 10:34 PM
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weather you need the money or not they are his children too and should be helping pay for the cost of the childrens needs

Cymbeline
by Spock's 2nd Cousin on May. 26, 2012 at 10:34 PM
I agree.

Quoting kcook55:

weather you need the money or not they are his children too and should be helping pay for the cost of the childrens needs

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Cymbeline
by Spock's 2nd Cousin on May. 26, 2012 at 10:46 PM
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Quoting alwayskk:

Go for it.

It's going to be a bit rough, but I need to bring out the tough Cymbie :)

"What is a man, if chief good, and market of his time be but to sleep and feed? A beast, no more."  Hamlet

lil_mama06
by Brian's Lil Vixen on May. 26, 2012 at 10:57 PM

Don't see why not, he helped make em, he can contribute to their raising...

LadyStork
by on May. 26, 2012 at 10:58 PM
Good luck. We've been after my ex and he still won't pay. :/
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prdmomnarmywife
by Gold Member on May. 26, 2012 at 10:59 PM
Do it ! Your kids deserve it . If he wants to be apart if their lives , and ntm he helped make them , file
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Kmakksmom
by Stefanie on May. 26, 2012 at 11:00 PM

you rock

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