DH&Letting yourself go

[-KC-]

If you get married to a man, have kids... Eventually stop taking care of yourself, and your weight. Is he in the wrong if he doesn't find you attractive anymore? Is he in the wrong if he offers to pay for your gym membership, or even to take care of yourself? Have you ever had a problem with a similar situation? Curious hypothetical question due to some things i've read on CM.

[Doc.Mc.Lissa]

 I'll probably have the unpopular opinion here. I would love my husband no matter what. But if he gained 100+ pounds, I would not find him attractive, and I probably would not want to have sex with him. I wouldn't be a jerk, but I would try my hardest to help him lose weight. I don't think it is any different if the sexes are reversed.

[-KC-]

bump

[beaularson91]

not the husbands fault im overweight now that ive had a baby my husband actually did get a gym membership for us cuz he gained wieght during my pregnancy as well but i havent had th chance to use it cuz i had to come to be with my mother while she was on her deathbed but as soon as i get home im gonna be right there with him at  the gym

[-KC-]

agreed

Quoting Doc.Mc.Lissa:

 I'll probably have the unpopular opinion here. I would love my husband no matter what. But if he gained 100+ pounds, I would not find him attractive, and I probably would not want to have sex with him. I wouldn't be a jerk, but I would try my hardest to help him lose weight. I don't think it is any different if the sexes are reversed.

[-KC-]

Good Luck ! :)
Sorry for your loss though.

Quoting beaularson91:

not the husbands fault im overweight now that ive had a baby my husband actually did get a gym membership for us cuz he gained wieght during my pregnancy as well but i havent had th chance to use it cuz i had to come to be with my mother while she was on her deathbed but as soon as i get home im gonna be right there with him at  the gym

[beaularson91]

thanks

Quoting -KC-:

Good Luck ! :)
Sorry for your loss though.

Quoting beaularson91:

not the husbands fault im overweight now that ive had a baby my husband actually did get a gym membership for us cuz he gained wieght during my pregnancy as well but i havent had th chance to use it cuz i had to come to be with my mother while she was on her deathbed but as soon as i get home im gonna be right there with him at  the gym

[carter210]

I always told my DF that if ever gained a lot of weight after we got married he could leave me. It was in a joking way but I do feel that way. I honestly don't feel its hard to keep up with your appearance. If my DF ever didn't find me attractive because of me not taking care of himself I would want him to tell me.

[luvhubandbabys]

Nothing wrong at all. If u have gained that much weight I could see him being concerned for ur health. Pregnancy and kids can be hard on you but its def not acceptable to let urself go completely. You should at least try to exercise a few times a week. Everyone should to keep their hearts healthy.

[dusky_rose]

If he is married to you, why would he have to offer to pay for a gym membership? Isn't it both of their moneys as husband and wife? My DH has gained weight and I don't offer to buy him a gym membership. I figure that he has the choice on whether he wants a gym membership or not. And for the time being he has chosen not. He also choses not to eat very healthy either. He has given up smoking and Mt. Dew, so I don't complain, but I wish that he cared more about his health. I don't think that saying something is going to make him change his mind and I still love him no matter what.

[BabiiYarellie]

After I had my dd I gained a lot of weight and he said something about me not dressing up or doing anything to myself. I couldnt blame him there were days when I didnt even shower. With the bby and living with an additional 8 and 1 bath...ugh..but he got over it and understood what was going on. Now he says im sexy and im still fat. Lol <3 it wasnt the fac that I gine weih tht I ddnt take care of myseflk brushing my hair n such. But I love him and all the extra weight on him vso I dnt see him hating me for that. I had a kid what would be his excuse? Lol