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I don't know who the father is..

Posted by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:49 PM
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Please do not judge or make fun of me..believe me, I never in a million years wanted or thought this would happen to me and It tears me apart to even think about it but I need some advice..while living in NE in September I basically had a one night stand with a gentleman I'll call "Cowboy". Shortly before (around a week or two) that I came back home to SD for a visit and ended up hooking up with an ex who shall be named "trek-ey". So needless to say I came back to NE and x amount of time later I found out that I would be expecting a baby around June 9th! I was ecstatic but then quickly shot down with disappointment when I came upon this dilema. When I told cowboy he said that was impossible because he had just had a vasectomy(?) Like a month or two prior to our meeting..so then I told trek-ey and he was happy..shocked but happy. So anyway all of these questions came about and long story short he and I both have doubts about the paternity..he says that no matter what he will be there for us and it takes more than DNA to be a father. On one hand I couldn't have asked for anything better than that response but the whole thing is honestly stressing me out..and rightfully so. I don't know if I should believe cowboy b/c that kind of procedure is not 100% effective (I wouldn't think) and he also stated that he did a test and he's shooting blanks...and now trek-ey says he'll be there but he won't sign the certificate until he knows for sure..I'm kind of with him on that buuut I also feel that if he doesn't want to sign it then I need to move on..am I making a big deal? Who should I believe is the father?? Ugh I hate myself for putting myself in this position..any advice would be helpful and appreciated. Thank you..
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nancym3
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:50 PM
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Get a DNA test.
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caiterlin
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:51 PM
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I first had relations with trek-ey then cowboy..sorry..
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autumn_sunset
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:52 PM


Quoting nancym3:

Get a DNA test.
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caiterlin
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:52 PM
That's the end result but I want to put it to rest in my mind who it is before we do the test..


Quoting nancym3:

Get a DNA test.

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Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:52 PM
Get the dna and go from there....my ex tried saying that he was shooting blanks but dna proved otherwise
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Luv.My.Kidz
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:53 PM
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You won't until you get the dna test

Quoting caiterlin:

That's the end result but I want to put it to rest in my mind who it is before we do the test..




Quoting nancym3:

Get a DNA test.

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nancym3
by on May. 28, 2012 at 11:53 PM
It could be either. Honestly, a DNA test would be the end to all wondering.


Quoting caiterlin:

That's the end result but I want to put it to rest in my mind who it is before we do the test..




Quoting nancym3:

Get a DNA test.


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Toadstoolmama
by Member on May. 28, 2012 at 11:53 PM
I wouldn't hold it against trek-ey for not wanting to sign the birth certificate. Get a paternity test once the baby is born. It is the easiest way to go about it. Why would cowboy have a vasectomy? Does he already have kids? It would be fishy if he's a single dude.

kagdwg09
by Member on May. 28, 2012 at 11:54 PM

Just get a DNA test! It will ease ur mind

sam12796
by Sandy on May. 28, 2012 at 11:54 PM
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He is right not to sign until he knows. You have a good man who wants to stick by you. Get a DNA test done and go from there. Why give up on a possible great thing on a fear?
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