he is in so much trouble-update at bottom
So my friend and I take our boys outside and try to find out what in the world happened. Of course being 5 year olds they blamed it on each other and then the other boy. So I decided to wait till we got home to see if I could get the truth out of Landon. First we told him his punishment. No tv, no video games, no toys, no playing with the neighbors. He can look at books and that's it. He has to stay in his room and think about what he did. Then we asked how this was started. Well after going round and round he finally admitted that his friend said he had a naked picture of a girl that rides his bus (she is in high school, they have them ride with the elementary school kids) so Landon came back trying to one him up by saying he had a picture of the 5th grade girl. Another boy was involved with just spreading it around. We explained to him how serious this is, how embarrassing it probably was for the little girl and how much trouble he could get himself and others into. If he was older, I guarantee we would have police here tearing our house apart looking for child pornography. Of course my son has no pictures of this girl and we have no naked pictures of anyone except ds when he was a baby. And I'm positive the other boy doesn't have dirty pictures either.
Landon has never done anything like this. Never gets in trouble and is always complimented on how sweet and respectful he is. This was like a slap in the face to me. I started crying when I talked to him because this is not something the parents of a 5 year old should have to worry about. He has gotten minor punishments in the after school program recently for acting up. And it coincides with when this other boy started coming to the program.
Tomorrow I'm going to the school to speak with the guidance counselor and his teacher. I just want them to reinforce what I told Landon about how its highly inappropriate, its mean, and its very serious. We spoke to him for over 2 hours about this. I just want the school to know that this happened and I would like for the 3 boys to be separated for the rest of the year (they get out next Wednesday). I don't know where this other boy got this idea from, maybe the high schoolers on the bus are talking inappropriately around him. I told Landon that he doesn't need to be the center of attention, he doesn't need to make people laugh all the time and if he's around people talking this way he will be tempted to do the same or will be guilty by association. I told him if something like this happens again to walk away from the kids who are saying it.
Do you think I handled it right? Any suggestions? I'm heart broken that my child, even not understanding it, is already sexualized at this age. This just isn't something that should come out of a 5 year olds mouth.
Update: I just got home from talking to the principal, who also used to be a guidance counselor, and I am positive Landon fully understands how serious this is. She agreed with me that the boys need to be separated to let things cool down so this isn't a topic of discussion between them again. She told Landon exactly what I did, to think before he says something, not to repeat things that don't sound appropriate, and to get away from the situation and tell an adult when something like this happens. He was very apologetic and he started to cry a little because it scared him that he did something that could've gotten him in a lot of trouble. He was also upset that he embarrassed a little girl that he likes to be around. So we will see how today and next week goes. He is still grounded from video games, toys, tv and playing with other kids. Books allowed and he has to stay in his room other than meal times.