DF's ex girlfriend's brother died last night. (yeah, not sure whats up with all these deaths in our family/town lately, it's getting weird) I feel really bad for their family.
This particular ex and DF are not on speaking terms. They were friends but she started some drama with me. Flirting with him, ect. She lives far away so all of the drama occured over fb (figures) We both stopped speaking to her, deleted her from fb, deleted her phone number.
Her brother and DF were good friends. The first thing he said when he found out this morning was "I need to call --ex-- and see how she's doing" Then he went outside to call her.
Before anyone calls me a selfish bitch or anything like that, I understand this girl is hurting. I have lost two loved ones in the last month. But I can't help but feel like "Why does he need to call her?"
I'm not going to say anything to him. I just want everyone's opinions on this.
i don't think he needs to call her. id understand if he wanted to go to the funeral or something, and asked her how she was doing while there. If they werent on speaking terms then why call her?
I didn't say anything to him because he is hurting right now but it doesn't make me any less uncomfortable with the situation.
Quoting rjsmommy214:i don't think he needs to call her. id understand if he wanted to go to the funeral or something, and asked her how she was doing while there. If they werent on speaking terms then why call her?
I think calling her was a perfectly reasonable and acceptable thing to do under these particular circumstances. Doesn't mean they should continue to have contact beyond the funeral, but I'm guessing this person that died was probably rather young to pass and maybe it happened unexpectedly. I'm sure these factors make it particularly difficult for your fiance's ex. This is one of those situations where differences need to be temporarily set aside. Him calling her wasn't a social call, KWIM? That's my 2 cents anyway.
Quoting rjsmommy214:
i don't think he needs to call her. id understand if he wanted to go to the funeral or something, and asked her how she was doing while there. If they werent on speaking terms then why call her?
I understand what you're saying. The more I think about it, the less it bothers me. I guess I just need time to let my immature side simmer down a bit.
Quoting Kmary:I think calling her was a perfectly reasonable and acceptable thing to do under these particular circumstances. Doesn't mean they should continue to have contact beyond the funeral, but I'm guessing this person that died was probably rather young to pass and maybe it happened unexpectedly. I'm sure these factors make it particularly difficult for your fiance's ex. This is one of those situations where differences need to be temporarily set aside. Him calling her wasn't a social call, KWIM? That's my 2 cents anyway.
I'm sorry your family is going through so much. Last year was like that for us and I'm sure the stress of your other losses is contributing to your feelings now. Hugs
I decided to be nice too and send her a message via facebook and offer my condolences.
Quoting M0M0F3B0YS82:
I think it was ok to express his condolences in a situation like that it's hard to say really I'm not there but I'm sure he's sad since they were friends at one time
Am I wrong for not giving a F**** that hes dying?
- supermom2xlb
on Jun. 3, 2012 at 11:51 AM