DD's Dance Instructor Actually Said This..
My almost 4 yr old DD is in a ballet class every Saturday morning for about an hour. We signed her up because it was one of the few activities that are available for her age group in our area. She seems pretty neutral about it so we probably won't do it again next year. Anyway, her instructor was talking to the class and parents about their upcoming recital next weekend. She was explaining how they have to be ready WHEN they get there, etc., etc. Then she actually said, to the girls, "It will hurt when Mommy does your hair, but it always hurts to be pretty."
Just about every jaw in the room dropped. I really could not believe she said that to a room of 3&4 year old girls.
Edit: Ok, so I do appreciate the instructor telling them that the bun might hurt because then it won't seem like it's MY fault that it hurts. I also know that brushing and putting up hair can hurt and if she wants to do the recital she needs her hair up. I also tell her all of the time that if she's going to cry about me washing her long hair, we need to cut it short so it's easier. I'm just really shocked that she said "it ALWAYS hurts to be pretty." That just seems to be a bad idea. Maybe I'm way off and I'm being a quixotic idiot, but aren't we supposed to teach our girls that they're beautiful no matter what they look like? Am I really that far off? I really didn't want to get into the "planting the insecurity seed" argument because I've seen that cause some major trouble on here, but is it really ok for girls to grow up thinking that they have to put themselves through pain to be considered pretty? I feel pretty and I felt no pain today. What does that mean?