Awkward.....I think my MIL overheard me complaining about her
Well, it wasn't really about her, not by herself anyway. Today was my DD's birthday and my MIL and my husband's step father came to town for a few days to be here for it. I mistakenly assumed that since she only sees her grand kids once per year, and he even less, that they would want to spend the bulk of their time with the kids. There was no set plan today, but obviously being my daughter's birthday I wanted to do some nice things for her. I had to go grocery shopping, but other than that my day was hers. We did however have swimming lessons at 5pm and I wanted to take her to dinner after. My husband tells me at the last minute that he has a city counsel meeting in the morning. He then tells me that he'll have his parents watch the kids while I go grocery shopping so we can get it all done early. No problem. The grocery store I go to is 30 minutes away, and I usually go alone. I sometimes bring one child, but I've only brought them both a few times. Then he tells me that he's taking his parents to the casino while he's at the meeting. (umm. okay) So I tell him I'll wait for them to get back and then go shopping. My husband said he was dropping them off at the casino on the way to the meeting (which is across the street from his meeting) then picking them up after. He's usually home from these meetings by 10:15 am. 11am....no one is here. I'm sitting here with the kids, on my daughter's birthday basically just wasting the day away waiting to go grocery shopping. If I knew he'd be late, I would have just taken the kids and been back by now. Then it's a quarter to 12, now I'm pissed. It's almost nap time and the day is pretty much done as far as activities at that point. The kids nap from 1-3 then they have snack and we have to leave for swimming at 4:30. I guess I can't take Eve (DD) to the pool, or the bounce house, or anything for her damn birthday because I was stupid and now I'm sitting here. They finally get back and act like nothing. So I take my husband upstairs and I'm crying telling him how I feel like her whole day is gone and now we won't have done much of anything for her birthday. I told him he should have texted me to let me know. He knew I was sitting here waiting for them. Then....in anger...and through tears.....I said "It's hard enough dealing with one person who thinks the sun rises and sets on their ass but now there are 3 of you and no one seems to give a damn about Eve or what she may want to do on her birthday"
I'm pretty sure my MIL heard me. I wasn't loud at all, but when I came down stairs she wouldn't even look at me. She didn't look at me or speak to me the rest of the day, and tomorrow they are checking out of their hotel and going home without evening visiting over here. Oops. I meant what I said, so I'm alright with it. Whenever they come it's all about her every whim and whatever she wants to do with no regard to the children eating or napping. If she wants to be pissed about it, that's fine. I think if I were in her shoes I'd be mortified that I gave the impression that I don't care about my grand daughter's needs. I took Eve with me to the grocery store and we stopped at Starbucks for a "milk shake" I bought her a book at the store and we had a nice time. When I got home my husband had bought me flowers and a huge happy birthday balloon for Eve, which I was really happy about, her too. We didn't have time to do anything other than dinner, just like I had suspected but it was a good day....with exception to the awkward eye aversion and silent treatment. I'm sure I'll get bashed for this one, but after a day of the silent treatment I'm in the mood to argue, so go ahead let me have it. lol
Be kind to me or treat me mean, I'll make the most of it I'm an extraordinary machine.
Quoting sbreece:
I totally understand where you're coming from. How old was your daughter today?
4. It was IMO the birthday she was really going to remember and she actually understood what it meant. Her party was on Saturday, so there was no cake and balloons or gifts today. I didn't want it to be just another day.
Be kind to me or treat me mean, I'll make the most of it I'm an extraordinary machine.
I would've lost it on all 3 of them when the waltzed in like nothing ever happened.
Sorry that happened but im glad she had fun with you anyway! :)
Quoting KitschyGirl:
Quoting sbreece:
I totally understand where you're coming from. How old was your daughter today?4. It was IMO the birthday she was really going to remember and she actually understood what it meant. Her party was on Saturday, so there was no cake and balloons or gifts today. I didn't want it to be just another day.
you have every reason to be upset. I would be mad at my husband too. why would they even plan on the casino on the only day they would be able to see your daughter. Very incosinderate on their part.
~Melissa~Wife to Jarrod~Mommy to Nathan, Kristina, Tyler, and Ryan~
Quoting nazgor:
eh, you were upset and venting to your husband...
It happens right? We don't have any kind of relationship (my MIL) and I. I can count how many times we've met in ten years. Its sad that she's going to let this keep her from spending time wit the kids before they leave.....but she wasn't doing a whole lot of that anyway I guess. They had Eve with them and all came 20 minutes late for her birthday party on Saturday.
Be kind to me or treat me mean, I'll make the most of it I'm an extraordinary machine.
I cut her out of our lives, because of issues she alone caused. Best decision I'd made in awhile.
Happy birthday to evie :)
Is it just me, or... ?
- KitschyGirl
on Jun. 18, 2012 at 10:43 PM