we might be homeless soon.....thanks alot edit***
the back story is that back in dec 09 fil helped us buy the house were in now so we could be closer to him (ds is special needs and we need the support of family when we are in and out of hospitals). so also becasue we were only 18 and 19 fil's name is on the lease and home title. bil has been so out of hand the past year, he droped out of school, has a pregnant girlfrined, has no plans to ever get a job, he drinks and smokes an dose drugs. well one day a group of police show up on my door becasue they found weed growing on bil window sil........ so they contact the community office and of course that violates terms and he now has to move....we are under his name which means WE have to move. where? how? no clue. so becasue that dumbass kid we will be living out of a car and suv for god knows how long. my ds has a special bed he has to sleep in so he dosent choke and gag and stop breathing...and im not even sure if that will fit in the suv :/ i just dont know. so now we will be putting off ttc, we will be putting off the job offer in san antonio next year, putting off buying the house.....everything. and i feel like crap. and im pissed at fil. i told him over and over he has to do somthing to make that kid understand but no. instead he gives him a car, and lets him do whatever he wants. so now here i sit pissed off and crying. i dont know how im going to explian to all my ds home nurses and therapist that we will no longer have a house in the next few weeks (at best).
sorry just venting. any ideas what we can do?
fil bought the trailer were in and we pay him mortgage, and we rent the land were on. the lease for the land says we cannot move the trailer for 4 years after purchase. but that anything under fil name (we are not on any papers) will be punished with eviction for violation. no it dose not really make sense. but the arc community here is all kinds of crazy.
they started habbitat for humanity some what close by but im not sure what the wait periode is.
Quoting SusanD:I would look into income based housing in the local area. See if they can get you into a place that will accomodate your child's needs.
I am not being mean, but when you said it was a trailer then right there I knew you got screwed over. They, the management, own that trailer no matter who pays the bills and whose name is on the lease.
I am sorry this is happening. I would get my own place and say screw your family because they just screwed you over big time! :(
bil was growing and selling drugs. the hoa here says no drugs, selling or buying among other things so they said that fil has to move out of the community, and that any property he owns is under the same penalty.
Quoting Dollyrot:There are so, SO many programs and places out there, especially when you have a child with special needs. Maybe this sounds mean, but how about instead of pooh-poohing about living in an SUV, you get to work calling as many people as you can, looking online, calling 211 (or whatever it is where you are), asking anyone you can (I know, that's what you're doing here)? There are shelters, if nothing else. At least that's a roof over your head.
Also, would you mind explaining how the brother broke the lease, you say so HE of course has to move.. how does that translate into we have to live in a car?
Yes, your B.I.L. is just like my former neighbors-dumb asses. They wanted to "earn" extra money by growing and selling weed (while smoking up the majority). When CPS came out, they found other things that were not right in the home, such as children were not going to school, used diapers laying around, rat droppings, and so forth. My neighbors made one or two dumb decisions that greatly altered their lives, and it just took one phone call from and a visit from CPS. What I am saying is that a mole hill can quickly become a mountain in any situation. You now know how your in-laws are, protect yourself and your family to the fullest.
You take care now.
Quoting SimplyErathy:wow..thats messed up. and i mean the park were in isent a bad one. yea we have some vandalisim but even home and apartments get that. bil is just a dumbass.
Quoting Mbpeaceful12:Congrats on the new trailer. Please make sure that none of your family or in-laws are growing shit by it or on the land. Even if you have to make your daily rounds of the yard twice and three times a day. I had some neighbors that had Child Protective Services called on them about growing weed in the yard next to the collard greens.
In my mind he screwed himself here, since the house is in his name (FIL's). Start over new, even if in a shelter, and move to a place cheap to rent.
tell me about it. we had no clue it would be like this. and it was great when we moved in and then the manager had a baby and left :/ as soon as the new one took over everything changed. like outside we can only have two cars and the trash can. no patio furniture, nothing. and they nit pick EVERYTHING. grass has to be cut every other day or its too long for them and they fine you $40.we use to be in an apartment but the owner let her brother who is a nasty druggie move in next door, they refused to fix stuff and we had no family...we are pretty much on our own in everything. iv learned family isn't always everything :( we have contemplated moving out of state even but Texas has the best employment rate right now. dh is in it tech support so his field is always going to be there and always in demand but alot of big companies start you off low. like he started at $15/hr on a 3 month trail. then was hired on and now makes $25/hr(he works the night shift and they get a bouns). we almost have the house paid off though. we were going to move to san Antonio next year after we sell this house. but the way dh told is that fil and us have to find somewhere else to live Even though fil owns his house, he actually won it in a drawing so it was free. im waiting for sh to wake up and his dad to get home to go to the office and try to figure things out. dh wants fil to kick bil out because the kid needs a serious reality check. his baby is due in sep and all his money has gone to drugs and games :/
Quoting .Diddles.:I am not being mean, but when you said it was a trailer then right there I knew you got screwed over. They, the management, own that trailer no matter who pays the bills and whose name is on the lease.
I am sorry this is happening. I would get my own place and say screw your family because they just screwed you over big time! :(
Your husband makes $25.00 an hour and you are worried about being homeless? Can you not get an apartment?
Quoting SimplyErathy:tell me about it. we had no clue it would be like this. and it was great when we moved in and then the manager had a baby and left :/ as soon as the new one took over everything changed. like outside we can only have two cars and the trash can. no patio furniture, nothing. and they nit pick EVERYTHING. grass has to be cut every other day or its too long for them and they fine you $40.we use to be in an apartment but the owner let her brother who is a nasty druggie move in next door, they refused to fix stuff and we had no family...we are pretty much on our own in everything. iv learned family isn't always everything :( we have contemplated moving out of state even but Texas has the best employment rate right now. dh is in it tech support so his field is always going to be there and always in demand but alot of big companies start you off low. like he started at $15/hr on a 3 month trail. then was hired on and now makes $25/hr(he works the night shift and they get a bouns). we almost have the house paid off though. we were going to move to san Antonio next year after we sell this house. but the way dh told is that fil and us have to find somewhere else to live Even though fil owns his house, he actually won it in a drawing so it was free. im waiting for sh to wake up and his dad to get home to go to the office and try to figure things out. dh wants fil to kick bil out because the kid needs a serious reality check. his baby is due in sep and all his money has gone to drugs and games :/
Quoting .Diddles.:I am not being mean, but when you said it was a trailer then right there I knew you got screwed over. They, the management, own that trailer no matter who pays the bills and whose name is on the lease.
I am sorry this is happening. I would get my own place and say screw your family because they just screwed you over big time! :(
I lived in a trailer for 5 years and I hated it. I fell into a deep depression. Everything you said is exactly what they did to us. They even stole my car out of my driveway and got away with it!
Dh and I want to move to Texas and he is in the same field as yours. $25 seems like good money so can't you get a short lease on an apartment til something better comes along? My dh makes close to what yours does, but we live in MO.
I hope it works out for you. Trailer parks are shady as hell. Stay strong and hold your ground.
They need to do something about your bil. He needs to be kicked to the curb or something. I could not tolerate that.
Quoting SimplyErathy:tell me about it. we had no clue it would be like this. and it was great when we moved in and then the manager had a baby and left :/ as soon as the new one took over everything changed. like outside we can only have two cars and the trash can. no patio furniture, nothing. and they nit pick EVERYTHING. grass has to be cut every other day or its too long for them and they fine you $40.we use to be in an apartment but the owner let her brother who is a nasty druggie move in next door, they refused to fix stuff and we had no family...we are pretty much on our own in everything. iv learned family isn't always everything :( we have contemplated moving out of state even but Texas has the best employment rate right now. dh is in it tech support so his field is always going to be there and always in demand but alot of big companies start you off low. like he started at $15/hr on a 3 month trail. then was hired on and now makes $25/hr(he works the night shift and they get a bouns). we almost have the house paid off though. we were going to move to san Antonio next year after we sell this house. but the way dh told is that fil and us have to find somewhere else to live Even though fil owns his house, he actually won it in a drawing so it was free. im waiting for sh to wake up and his dad to get home to go to the office and try to figure things out. dh wants fil to kick bil out because the kid needs a serious reality check. his baby is due in sep and all his money has gone to drugs and games :/
Quoting .Diddles.:I am not being mean, but when you said it was a trailer then right there I knew you got screwed over. They, the management, own that trailer no matter who pays the bills and whose name is on the lease.
I am sorry this is happening. I would get my own place and say screw your family because they just screwed you over big time! :(
Okay what I dont understand is why wasnt in your name, sorry if you already explained this. Im trying to think of a way you can get around this but since your in a different state there are different legal actions.
I know they shouldnt be able to kick a woman with kids out so easily even if you guys dont own the land. Could it change if your FIL signed everything over to you guys? At 18 you can own a home. I would seriouly go back and stress how serious this is for your son, even bring in medical records and show them, I would refuse to leave. Continue to put a set amount of what you guys pay in a savings (if they wont accept your payments). Even contact the state for help, I dont think legally they can do this so easily even if you arent on the paper work. And try and fix that getting on the paper work.
Quoting SimplyErathy:
its morgated, its a moblie home so we rent the land. only fil is on th the agreement and we just pay him all the bills. since we were teenagers. and we cant move the trailer for another year per the agreement. bil lives with fil, the live the in the house next door. he was told anything under his name is in violation and is in violation even though we have not done anything.
Quoting SusanD:
So is the house leased or mortgaged? If you are leasing the home, then you aren't buying. If you are buying the house, then they can't say you are in violation of anything and kick you out of something that you own.
Also if your FIL's name is on the lease, how are you living there undil BIL's name?
Is it just me, or... ?
- SimplyErathy
on Jun. 20, 2012 at 1:05 PM