Help hubby and I come to an agreement,please? ETA (Adding a poll)

[brandyblx]

    We have not been able to "meet in the middle".I was hoping you guys could    help me ?! Here goes :

  Bryce(8 yr old) has Vitiligo. It basically just shows up in patches of lighter/darker skin on random body parts. The pedi has him on a prescribed steroid cream that helps stopping it from "growing". Since,until now the spots Bryce had were in places covered by clothes it was decided to let well enough alone. In other words,no laser treatment to remove them...etc. (Nothing invasive)

  Until about 2/3 weeks ago I noticed one of these spots across the bridge of his nose! If this spot does what all the other ones have...it will get big and VERY white. Other kids in his class have started to notice;there has been some mild teasing. But,I know that if this spot gets bigger and paler people will be saying stuff to him. I really don't want Bryce to be picked on....his pedi agrees with me. We should have this spot removed,even the dermatologist agrees. He said these spots rarely come out in the same spot once they are removed.My hubby says it will "build character" for him to be teased. He also says he doesn't see how having some big,white blotches on his face should affect him.WTH?

 What do you think? Should we remove the Vitiligo spot now? Should we wait until it becomes a bigger issue? (We are only really worried about the one on his face...this is the one that could cause a lot of teasing)

 Thanks for your opinions and/or advice. 

  Eta: Bryce does not like these spots.  He doesn't want what he calls his "snake bites" on his face...he said they'll make him feel stupid. (Direct quote from 8 yr old)

[2love]

I have a uncle with a pale birth mark on one half of his face. I have never seen the man frown... lol

[brandyblx]

 These are to give an idea what they look like.

[lovelove211]

I have this right up my left shin bone, always fake tanning in summer and doing everything I can to cover it, when I have the money I'm getting it removed. I was teased when younger so I'd have it removed for him

[tinaleigh]

I dunno I can kinda see both sides of it. What does your son say about it? Is he self conscious of it? If so then ya I'd have it removed.

[brandyblx]

  Bryce is a very shy,loving little boy. He is really sensitive and it is very easy to hurt his feelings. If they start picking on him because of that spot...Bryce would probably come home in tears.

Quoting tinaleigh:

I dunno I can kinda see both sides of it. What does your son say about it? Is he self conscious of it? If so then ya I'd have it removed.

[brandyblx]

BUMP!

[brandyblx]

BUMP!

[CABZS]

I went to school with a black girl, most of one side of her face was white. I don't remember her ever being teased and she was very friendly, had lots of friends and a boyfriend.

I understand your concern but I'm not big on doing invasive procedures unless absolutely necessary. So I'm not sure I would remove it.

Have you looked into natural ways to help what he has? I try to do natural, see a natropath and since we moved I'm still looking for an herbalist but herbs are so good and many can help with many skin conditions.

Honestly for me I would do everything I could to stay away from any invasive procedure.

[beadingmom17]

What about just using makeup to cover it? That's what Lee Thomas (the guy in the pictures posted) does. You can't really tell...even under the harsh lights of the TV studio.

[scraphappy12]

Those people are dumb. You tell the truth. He's having laser treatments to remove a birthmark. The end. the talking that goes on during the treatment will fade the talking that will go on about the mark will be for a lifetime.

Quoting brandyblx:

 This is what I told my hubby. He says he thinks people may think we are trying to do a face-lift type thing?

Quoting scraphappy12:

Remove it. Kids suck and are cruel. Don't make it harder on him.