Young Mothers.

[aRealteenMother]

I'm new-ish to CafeMom, but I wanted to start a thread for young mothers, like teens and those in their twenties. I know most of us, especially teen mothers, get a bad rep simply for our age. But I don't think its fair to say that being young means you're a bad mom. I'd like to open up this thread to other young moms who know they're good moms and want to talk about being a mom without being judged. Feel free to share your story.

I got pregnant when I was sixteen after I'd been with my now husband for almost two years. He was nineteen. I was told by pretty much all of my family to give the baby up for adoption, but we decided to keep it. In the town we live in, jobs are scarce so we had to stay with my mom until we got on our feet, but now we have our own place and have had it for some time. Yes, we are on foodstamps and my daughter is on Medicaid, but that's only temporary assistance until my husband get a better job. We don't plan to live off it forever, but right now, we honestly need it and I'm not ashamed of that.

I know I cant stop people from posting judgy things but I do ask that you keep hurtful comments to yourself. You're an adult and so you should act like it. Posting mean comments on a thread that's supposed to be supportive only has a negative effect, unless you just like being mean. So, please leave this thread if you dont have anything supportive to say.

[staffordmommy]

I got pregnant at 19 I'm 22 now and have 2 sweet babies plus a 5 yr old SD full time. I know its not easy but u make it work. Age doesn't define good/bad mothers, morality does

[aimhawk]

http://www.cafemom.com/group/3019

[CaptainFeast]

I got married 2 months after my 18th birthday and a month later found out we were pregnant. We tracked the conception to either the day we got married or the day after, LOL!  We found out we were pregnant again when my DD was 18 months old. DD2 was born a few months ago. My husband and I have been through our trials, but we stick together through it all. DH and I have been married for 3.5 years. We live with his dad, not only because rent is cheaper here, but because his dad is in his 70s and needs a lot of help. My DH works full-time and I am a part-time student, full-time mom.

Teen mothers do get bad reps, but it's not completely unwarranted. Statistics prove that children born to teen mothers have harder lives. This is why you've got to work your best to not become a statistic.

[aimhawk]

I don't know how to make it clicky. But I am in a group called "Young Moms". I was married for almost a year before we got pregnant. I was 17, had her when I was 18. Just had a son in Jan. and I am now 23.

[Bookoholic]

Im in the same group, 24 mother to one son.

Quoting aimhawk:

I don't know how to make it clicky. But I am in a group called "Young Moms". I was married for almost a year before we got pregnant. I was 17, had her when I was 18. Just had a son in Jan. and I am now 23.

[LatinaMommy32]

Im 17 with a 6 month old and I think im doing a good job, I love her and Im going to finish school.. Now I just wish I had some friends who understood what I was and I am going through. Being a mom is great but not having anyone to talk to sucks sometimes.. My hubbys in the military and in basic right now, so Im lonely

[KatrinaMae]

I got pregnant at 17 and am now 20. I had my son one week after my 18 th birthday! My sons father and I have been together since I was 14 and we have now been married for one week! We are on foodstamps and my son recently had to be put on Medicaid bc my Dh lost his job which provided private insurance.. we are young parents but I kno I'm a good mom and my dh is a great dad! Our lives revolve around our son!

[prdmomnarmywife]

Eek .. Ok so I was a teen mom as well.. no bashing here but be prepared for the "I am better then all " mommies to appear and bash .

[JasKat3]

I was a teen mom. Had my son at 17. I would have totally been screwed over if it weren't for my bf (now dh). He knew what to do and how to raise kids. He took me to school (i was still on hs) and with his support I graduated. I could have gone completely in the wrong direction if it weren't for him. We now have 3 kids, expecting twins and going on strong for 11yrs.

[strictmomhere]

I was twenty when i had my oldest learn from my mistakes educate your self go to school make life better dont end up a statistic young moms can be great mom just get up and do it for your baby best wishes