Have You Ever Dated Anyone On the Autism Spectrum?
I need advice, stories, success, failures. Whatever experiences you have had dating someone on the Autism Spectrum.
My husband is Aspergers.
It can be a trial and I had to learn a logical way of communicating with him regarding serious issues.
And he doesn't get my sarcasm; he thinks I'm serious.
But he's really loving and loves to spend time together.
Social situations are best when it's a smaller group of friends; sometimes it'll take him 20 minutes to make it into a new house, bc he'll be outside, building up his confidence to talk to new people. But he states that he had a terrific time when we're leaving.
He's highly intelligent and that worries him around neuro-typicals (us) because he doesn't want people to think he's a snob.
Overall, he's a sweetheart and a great man; he just takes a long time to get comfortable in situations and learning, from me, how to work on his tone because sometimes he doesn't know how to say something or that he needs something without sounding rude or short.
He has never had therapy for it, because few adults, none actually, were diagnosed in the 70s.
I just speak from a mentors standpoint... So I am not all that useful
My husband has Asperger's. He wasn't diagnosed until after we were married. Our oldest son also has Asperger's.
It's difficult because emotions are very hard for him to express. His sense of humor is very dry and often times, can be hurtful. But, we're doing ok. We've been married for 8.5 years now.
Quoting MonnysPet:My husband is Aspergers.
It can be a trial and I had to learn a logical way of communicating with him regarding serious issues.
And he doesn't get my sarcasm; he thinks I'm serious.
But he's really loving and loves to spend time together.
Social situations are best when it's a smaller group of friends; sometimes it'll take him 20 minutes to make it into a new house, bc he'll be outside, building up his confidence to talk to new people. But he states that he had a terrific time when we're leaving.
He's highly intelligent and that worries him around neuro-typicals (us) because he doesn't want people to think he's a snob.
Overall, he's a sweetheart and a great man; he just takes a long time to get comfortable in situations and learning, from me, how to work on his tone because sometimes he doesn't know how to say something or that he needs something without sounding rude or short.
He has never had therapy for it, because few adults, none actually, were diagnosed in the 70s.
Quoting lmjess:My husband has Asperger's. He wasn't diagnosed until after we were married. Our oldest son also has Asperger's.
It's difficult because emotions are very hard for him to express. His sense of humor is very dry and often times, can be hurtful. But, we're doing ok. We've been married for 8.5 years now.
The guy I was seeing confided in me on our first date that he was on the spectrum when tested as a child. This would have been probably 20 or 25 years ago when the diagnosis wasn't as common. We were really really close. Hung out or texted or talked daily. Then boom nothing. He said because of past experiences he is terrified of women and commitment and he has been avoiding me because he doesn't want to fight it by treating my like shit, downplaying or doubting my feelings, acting like a pig, or being anything but genuine with me. With any other guy I would think this was just a nice way to break up. But I really think he's being honest. I know his brain works differently from other people. It's really hard not to spend time with him he emailed me once the week before last and once last week and he responded to one of my texts. He asked me to not turn away from him and be his friend, at least for now during this time. Again, any other guy I would think cop out. Him I really really feel in my gut he is being sincere.
We were actually attracted to each other back in our early 20s in 2002. We went to high school together but we didn't talk until I started dating his friend. He was married at the time so we never discussed the fact that we had a mutual attraction. But then in 2008 after his divorce he called a mutual friend of ours to see if I was single. He told her he had a secret crush on me and I was "the hottest woman he had ever seen". I was married at the time but I am going through a divorce now so I made contact with him. We have insane physical chemistry. We were thick as theives too up until he just wigged out. We were even officially boyfriend and girlfriend and said I love you all the time.
If you don't mind me asking what was dating your husband like for you?
Quoting MonnysPet:My husband is Aspergers.
It can be a trial and I had to learn a logical way of communicating with him regarding serious issues.
And he doesn't get my sarcasm; he thinks I'm serious.
But he's really loving and loves to spend time together.
Social situations are best when it's a smaller group of friends; sometimes it'll take him 20 minutes to make it into a new house, bc he'll be outside, building up his confidence to talk to new people. But he states that he had a terrific time when we're leaving.
He's highly intelligent and that worries him around neuro-typicals (us) because he doesn't want people to think he's a snob.
Overall, he's a sweetheart and a great man; he just takes a long time to get comfortable in situations and learning, from me, how to work on his tone because sometimes he doesn't know how to say something or that he needs something without sounding rude or short.
He has never had therapy for it, because few adults, none actually, were diagnosed in the 70s.
If you don't mind me asking, what was it like for you when you were dating? I posted more info about my situation in the comment before this one.
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- evansmom0524
on Jun. 26, 2012 at 11:07 AM