Would it be inappropriate of me to ask them for money?
As some of you may know from my previous posts, my BIL was killed in a car accident this past Wednesday. He was 22 and leaves behind a wife (my sister) and two small children (my nephew will be 3 in August and my niece is 1). My sister and BIL were in the process of moving (LONG story) and had just put a $3000 down payment on land, which I've been told is non-refundable. So, they literally have/had no money left when this happened. Now, my family is trying to get donations to help pay for his funeral costs. My sister had originally decided that she was going to have him creamated, because it's cheaper. However, my BIL came from Mexico and that's where his entire family is at. They are wanting my sister to have a viewing here (in Alabama) for family and friends and then ship his body to Mexico. My sister is ok with doing that, but to transport his body raises the price up by $2000. I asked her if his family would be ok with her just sending his ashes, but they want his body intact so they can say goodbye one last time (they haven't seen him in 7 years), which is completely understandable, but it definitely puts my sister in a bind.
So, my question is: Would it be inappropriate for me to ask my pastor to take up a donation at the church that I go to? I mean, my sister and BIL don't go to that church and I wouldn't want anyone to think that the pastor would be ok with doing this for every family that has a death in the family (which he might be ok with that, I don't know).
Also, my husband and I haven't been very active in the church over the past 2 or 3 months. We do keep the Wee Worshippers class (ages 1-3) once a month and my husband goes to the church to help with lawn care once a month, but we haven't been attending service as much as we normally do.
Advice please? Would it be ok to ask or no?
ETA: His family is going to try to send a little bit of money, but it will never be enough.