Yelling/Cursing in front of your child . . . Just need to know Im not the only one. . .

[JaydensMom42009]

I often yell at my son, he's three and and stubborn as can be. He's at the age where he tells me "no", "don't do that!", "stop it mom!", etc. (He also tells me what driving direction I should go, lol!) Any who, this morning he was busy trying to get his cars out from under at cabinet at my moms (he stays there while I'm working) and I was leaving and he didn't want to give me a hug, kiss or even want to say bye. I got frustrated and and said "screw it then, see you later". While I know this isn't cursing I cried in the car because I felt bad, I shouldn't have said that in front of him. I do have a little trouble controlling my temper sometimes when hes being a typical 3 year old and I do curse more than I probably should within his ear shot. Please let me know Im not the only one who does this. Can someone give me some tips on how to control myself? My goal is to eliminate cursing and yelling all together, and I know that doesn't happen over night. Anyone else have this same goal and succeeded it? Thanks for your tips! I created a poll too if you prefer not to comment!

[SharonHernandez]

 Its the same with my daughter she is so stubborn! (she gets it from her daddy) lol. I'm guilty of doing the same thing, but sometimes I'll just take a deep breath and then just ignore my daughter until I'm over it and I can deal with her without yelling.

[mistync]

 i have noticed that since im pregnant my temper seems to be shorter and i tend to yell at my 4.5 yr old dd more than i ever have and i have also noticed a change in her behavior since....so i have been making my self breath and calm down so that im not yelling over every little thing.

[angevil53]

i don't like to yell, i hate it actually.  i can't stand being yelled at and i don't like to do it either. (not talking about hollering for my son to come here or something i mean like mean/angry yelling about something at someone). i do have a potty mouth. i have since i was like 18 or so. my son does not curse and will not be allowed to, i'm not one of those people who thinks it's cute or funny. i think it's disgusting when parents allow their children to curse. i try to curb it but sometimes the f-bomb or douchebag comes flying out. i need to get a handle on it.

[misstaylor85]

Before kids I was really bad. By the grace of God I was able to get it under control. I have my moments of course and I am not proud of that but I do the step back and breathe method then I calmly ask my kid would you like to do as I ask or do you want me to get my scary voice and then you will still have to do what I asked and then head to time out for not listening. That usually works every time. I work full time so I am rarely ever completely alone with the kids when I get too frustrated which happens when I am hormonal I have to recognized it and ask my husband to step in while I go sit out side for a few min. I do the same for him. These days we rarely raise our voice and my curse like a sailor days are long gone at least in the presence of the kids, when I am out with my girlfriends it's a whole different ball game.

[Mommy2b2324]

I'm the same way. I have a verbal temper and I find myself yelling and cussing the kids. im looking into an anger/stress management course to help me so I don't continue to do this. my babies deserve better I just gotta remind myself that before I go off

[jillbailey26]

I don't curse, but they'll get yelled at when they do something wrong.  I've never yelled at them for not wanting to give me a hug and a kiss or not wanting to tell me goodbye.  

You just have to think before you react.  Ask yourself, before you say or do anything about what you're feeling, if "this" is the type of response you want to have to your child or other loved ones in your life.  

[Lorelai_Nicole]

I almost never yell. And I don't cuss AT my children, although I do, to a small degree, cuss IN FRONT of them. Never the F-bomb, very rarely s**t, but mild cuss words like ass, hell, damn, etc.

[pamelax3]

Depends on which child...LOL!! My 15 dd can drive me to distraction, I have yelled at her. My 23 DS I have cursed and yelled at him. My 2 ds I have more patience with, but I have dropped the f-bomb in front of him on numerous occasions...

[stickyfingers]

i think everyone does that sometimes, but next time he wont go give you a hug or whatever then i would just go give him a kiss on the head tell him i love him and go. I have 4 kids and have been through that before too. they just get too busy and interested in something else. i am always afraid that when i leave the last thing they will remember is me being pissed off and something will happen. as for the yelling,  like i said i have four kids and i have to yell to get their attention but very seldom do i yell at them. try to stop doing that now while he is little because the more you yell the more he will get used to it and ignore you. find another way to get him to do what you want.

[calcalmommy]

I do not curse in front of them, to be honest I try not to curse at all. I am guilty of yelling at them, but most times it's because they can't hear me any other way. They are extra noisy kids! I am working on keeping myself from yelling when I'm mad or frustrated. I always feel so guilty when I do.