MIL showing favoritism.

[amy31308]

If your MIL showed favoritism towards your SIL kids? 

If about 75% of her fb statuses are about SIL kids and not one ever is about your kids? Today is my nephews bday and she had 5 different statuses about him.

She refuses to watch my kids unless it's an emergency but she watches SIL kids once a week and on the weekends whenever she needs an over night sitter- she hasn't kept my kids over night in over 2 years. 

She really doesn't care for me because I ruined her "perfect family image"  when I got pregnant before I was married. SIL doesn't care for me because of whatever reason. 

I literally have random people ask me (and MY MOM) about them and make it appoint to tell me how sorry they are that I'm stuck with them. I'm not kidding! LOL

I honestly am to the point where I hate my inlaws and my blood boils when I think about them.

I've tried talking to them and DH just tried talking to his mom last weekend and told her that she's rude to me and blah blah blah and then yesterday at DH's cousins wedding she didn't even look at me, no hi- nothing. 

I texted my DH today and told him I was done. I wasn't putting up with anymore. I'm done with his family functions- he can support me or I'm done. 

I don't want my kids to be subjected to favoritism and a person that all she knows how to do is bitch.

I'm done.

Any thoughs? Advice?  Similar experiences?

I can handle it- but I'm so sick of seeing the favoritism!

[Sassy762]

Cut them out of your life......totally,  before your children pick up on the favoritism and start asking questions.................kwim

You certainly are more patient than I would have been

[Bigmetalchicken]

I don't have this issue, because my husband is an only child, and I exceeded all of my MILs wildest dreams when it came to what she expected as a DIL, but I had someone explain the way MILs show favoritism to their daughter's children over their son's children like this:

"No matter what, when your daughter gives birth, you know for a fact that child is related to you. With children your DIL gives birth to, it is harder to be positive." 

Shitty, but I think some ILs do believe that.   

[amy31308]

That's BS. I couldn't imagine ever thinking that way!! My mom shows zero favoritism. I never thought of that but I guess some could think that way. Doesn't change the fact that my kids ARE her relation. LOL Unfortunately- I wish SHE wasn't their grandma. haha

Quoting Bigmetalchicken:

I don't have this issue, because my husband is an only child, and I exceeded all of my MILs wildest dreams when it came to what she expected as a DIL, but I had someone explain the way MILs show favoritism to their daughter's children over their son's children like this:

"No matter what, when your daughter gives birth, you know for a fact that child is related to you. With children your DIL gives birth to, it is harder to be positive." 

Shitty, but I think some ILs do believe that.   

[amy31308]

It's because I have a very nonconfrontational husband who tells me just to ignore them, or he doesn't see it, or just stay by him, or the kids don't notice. So it's a constant battle with him. I told him I was done today though- I love him so much but not his mom or sister. I'm 23 and my eyes are being opened more and more and guess what? I don't have to put up with their shit and I refuse to! No more. If you can't say hi to me at a wedding then you aren't worth my time and frustrations. 

Quoting Sassy762:

Cut them out of your life......totally,  before your children pick up on the favoritism and start asking questions.................kwim

You certainly are more patient than I would have been

[opal10161973]

Between this and the other post, I don't blame you one bit! 

[amy31308]

I married into a bunch of crazies!! LOL :) I honestly don't know how my DH is so different from them!

Quoting opal10161973:

Between this and the other post, I don't blame you one bit! 

[armywife0424]

My mil shows favoritism with her own kids and its started with grand kids. She never calls to ask about my kids or sends cards. The last time we visited mil was holding my dd and my sil says oh D (sil's dd) is here you have to put C (my dd) down bc she won't want to share her mimi. My mil dropped my dd like a sack of rocks. When sil had her dd my mil made blankets and bootie and hats. It took months and a guilt trip from my husband for our dd to get a blanket. It fell apart in its first wash cycle. I hate my mil and sil they are cut throat bitches.

[opal10161973]

There's always one family member that doesn't fit.  Be glad you got THAT one!  LOL

Quoting amy31308:

I married into a bunch of crazies!! LOL :) I honestly don't know how my DH is so different from them!

Quoting opal10161973:

Between this and the other post, I don't blame you one bit! 

[MAyers]

I understand what you're going through. My MIL is the same way. She lives 12 hours a way but the 2 weeks she's in town for the year she does not see my children once. She stays at my BILs house and babysits while they work and then the 2nd week they go on vacation. She sends presents throughout the year for the kids. We just don't even talk to any of them anymore.

[amy31308]

I wish my DH would be OK with us not talking to them anymore. I try and talk him into moving to a different state often and he always says no. LOL

Quoting MAyers:

I understand what you're going through. My MIL is the same way. She lives 12 hours a way but the 2 weeks she's in town for the year she does not see my children once. She stays at my BILs house and babysits while they work and then the 2nd week they go on vacation. She sends presents throughout the year for the kids. We just don't even talk to any of them anymore.