Ladies! pls help me! i have a selfish boyfriend who does not know how to put himself last when it comes to the needs of his daughter or my own. i will be the first to admit tht I have had moments of indulgment when it comes to buying an expensive item on a fast food menu, or spending too much money when shopping for clothes tht will grab ppls attention with a wow! or even buying tht certain perfume , lotion, or shampoo && conditioner. But when it comes to my daughter and what she needs i have to put my needs behind. How can i get it through his head tht he is not the most important thing anymore in our life...? && he needs to be working so tht he can support our "family" without relying on his parents or my own. && now tht we are expecting our second child it is even more vital for him to save instead of spend. How do i address this topic && keep the conversation from escalating into an all out fight?