She said, "Honey, whatever you do, don't ever let yourself become a "make-do" woman" I had no idea what she meant, but, of course, she was
about to explain.
She continued, "Men" don't deny themselves anything. Whatever they want to buy, they buy. Whatever they want to do, they do.
scraping |the bottom of her tube of lipstick! Oh, I could go on and on with how "we" make do.
And why? Because the car needs fixing, this bill is behind, we have to use our time to take care of this, or take care of that; we're saving for this, working, cooking, cleaning, raising, etc." She warned me to Never become a make-do woman, because she says if you start, it is hard to stop and one could easily find themselves making-do for the rest of their Lives. I vowed it would never happen to me. I didn't think much more of the conversation until one day, I began to take notice, she was right. Men Are a lot better at being good to them selves. Some call it being selfish, there has to be another word for it. Tell me if you know.
Whatever you call it. It does have its place. When they want to play ball, or golf, or fish, they go! When they want to buy clothes, or equipment, or video games, or whatever their "thing" is, they buy! Have you ever tried to stop one? Has anyone ever been able to stop one? Let me know! When I look around, I see a whole heap of Make-do women, married or not, with or without children, they are all over the place!
I have decided that I am going to make my best effort to become a "make-time" woman! I will make the time to do what I need to do to be good to myself, whether that's a trip to the salon, or the gym or the mall. This time I'm going to take a lesson from the guys!
Men always want women to look nice, smell nice, feel nice, love themselves, be themselves, be proud of themselves, take care of themselves but they never support them in being this to themselves. They just want and want and want. They will all sit at a braai and discuss how their wife’s stopped taking care of themselves and how the weight gained the hair got shorter the tight pants and heel flew out the window etc, etc ,etc how wife’s don’t want to hug or kiss or hold hands anymore but they never admit that women are never allowed to have any time or money for themselves to still be pretty for their husbands or themselves. Wife’s that doesn’t feel and look pretty for themselves doesn’t feel pretty for their husbands and that’s when all the “physical affection” flies out the window…..and all this why?????????? Because men just WANT and WANT and only care about what THEY WANT.
All right ladies, single and married... Let's NOT be "MAKE-DO" Women! Let's LOVE OURSELVES and ENCOURAGE each other! Pass it on! It's something we could all appreciate...