See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I have court tomorrow. I was supposed to have 4yo today, but she cancelled at the last minute. She is going to ask the judge if I can be on supervised visits because she doesn't think I'm affectionate enough and that I don't focus on only him when he's here.
Kinda hard to do with a 6mo and the fact that it's hard focusing on a child who isn't even allowed to be a significant part of my life for no apparent reason because CPS has cleared me and the Judge has, also. She's not following the rules.
I'm supposed to get him tomorrow from daycare (where he is bullied and beaten up) and she said not until court is over because she says she wants them to decide if I can see him anymore or not... but he already ordered me to have him back... so wtf.
Knots in my stomach.
Basically, I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing. She is not satisfied and keeps throwing conditions on top of conditions that the court does not give a shit about. She is not adhering to the judge's orders. That's why we're going to court tomorrow.
Prayers, positive thoughts, whatever you can send to me would be appreciated.
Yesterday was horrible. It was my mother's birthday, and we were feeling really positive about court. I went in, told the judge that nothing on my end has changed. I'm still doing my drug screens and working and everything else. I told him that we're a month into this transition and no transition has happened. He said it was to the guardian's discretion. He is under the impression that she cares about me... she doesn't.. because she sat (well, her lawyer) and spewed out bullshit for 15 minutes along the lines of that I'm still trying to date 4yo's father, and that I am "mentally unstable" and am in "desperate need of medication and therapy for all my problems" and requested I get supervised visits. Instead, the judge just specified that my court-ordered 2 days means 7 hours of the day.
As far as the mentally unstable thing goes, no I am not unstable. I was diagnosed with anxiety when I was 16, but I am med-free and it has no effect on my life. As far as everything else goes, whenever I show the slightest bit of frustration when talking to the guardian, she tells me I'm nuts... but she is always the one yelling at ME on the phone. Am I supposed to do jumping jacks that you're keeping my son from me? Am I NOT supposed to get upset?
The court order says "Mother is granted 2 days/week of visits with a gradual increase until termination in August. If all goes well, reconsider termination then."
I don't know how I'm going to convince her to give me more parenting time. It doesn't help that 4yo goes there and says EVERYTHING that I do over here. He says that I don't play with him a lot (I have a 6mo, we play when 6mo is asleep or we play together when he's awake), that I spend the WHOLE day on the computer (I don't.), that I don't hug him (I do, all the time)....etc. Either he is saying these things because she is prying to get the answer she wants, or she is making it up. Either way, I know it's not his fault, but it's so hard enjoying my son when I have to do whatever he asks me to because if I don't, he'll run and tell her.
I'm trying to find a lawyer today.