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So dh is stuck with me lol anyone else not believe in it? My parents divorced when I was about 4 so I think that's why. And ds is from a previous relationship that blew up when he was 1 and he's really done so much better since dh joined our family. He calls him daddy :)

ETA since obviously I meant except in case of abuse or anything illegal or dangerous. Duh.

ETA 2. No marriage isn't Santa clause. I wonder if people are being purposely obtuse? Anyway I'm merely implying that the vows I took, I took them seriously. They aren't just words on a piece of paper. Dh and I are in this for the long haul. Through the good and bad, sickness and health...sound familiar? And on another topic that someone decided to bring up...never did I say I was against premarital sex so yes I had a child out of wedlock. Wahoo. What's your point? I don't see that as being immoral, sounds like you're the one with issues. Obviously is dh hit me, I'd have his balls. If he decided to become a drug addict, I'd help him get help. If he decided to rob a bank, I'd turn him in. However knowing him, the only addiction he'd have is to skyrim.
And I'm not saying I'm better than anyone else.
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by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 3:21 AM
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M.I.A...P.O.W
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:24 AM
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When me and my stxh got married 13 years ago neither of us believed in divorce. The last  8 1/2 years I was completely miserable. I tried and tried to just make it work but we always went back to how it was before. Towards the end I was accused daily of cheating and that was when I broke and decided I could not handle this anymore. 

Anybody and everybody can say I took the easy way out. But I refused to live the rest of my life hoping he would croak over and die just so I didn't have to be with him anymore. I am the happiest I have been ever.

angelenia
by Gold Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:29 AM
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yep, yep and a woot! woot! for you, mama, for cherishing yourself enough to face the painful truth and the alnighty courage to kick his ass to the curb.


Quoting MyasMommy463:

 I did not believe it it either.. HOWEVER.. I also did not believe in living a  life of hell and betrayal..so I left..


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teri4lance
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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Lol so having a child out of wedlock is fine but not divorce. Lmao
okeydokey
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smurfbitebug
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:32 AM
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I also don't wish to throw in the towel so easily. Abuse of any kind towards me or any children (ours or otherwise) and adultery are the only things I will be divorcing for.

However, while DH agrees with me at the moment, I am well aware he may feel differently down the road.

That's life. But I'm along for the ride.
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smurfbitebug
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:34 AM
She stated why she felt this way, and it wasn't for religious reasons. So...where did this comment come from?

Quoting teri4lance:

Lol so having a child out of wedlock is fine but not divorce. Lmao

okeydokey
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teri4lance
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:35 AM
Bc selective morality is ironic.


Quoting smurfbitebug:

She stated why she felt this way, and it wasn't for religious reasons. So...where did this comment come from?



Quoting teri4lance:

Lol so having a child out of wedlock is fine but not divorce. Lmao


okeydokey

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smurfbitebug
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:37 AM
...I don't think it's about morality as much as what she wants for her kids that she didn't receive as a child.

Quoting teri4lance:

Bc selective morality is ironic.




Quoting smurfbitebug:

She stated why she felt this way, and it wasn't for religious reasons. So...where did this comment come from?





Quoting teri4lance:

Lol so having a child out of wedlock is fine but not divorce. Lmao



okeydokey

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teri4lance
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:38 AM
Ok great. It doesn't change my opinion.


Quoting smurfbitebug:

...I don't think it's about morality as much as what she wants for her kids that she didn't receive as a child.



Quoting teri4lance:

Bc selective morality is ironic.






Quoting smurfbitebug:

She stated why she felt this way, and it wasn't for religious reasons. So...where did this comment come from?







Quoting teri4lance:

Lol so having a child out of wedlock is fine but not divorce. Lmao




okeydokey


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TheMrs407
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:40 AM

Only if there is infidelity or abuse.  DH and I have always had very similar feelings bout marriage.  This was discussed long before we were married.

smurfbitebug
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:44 AM
I believe your opinion is that selective morality is ironic. I'm not trying to change that opinion. It just doesn't apply here.

Quoting teri4lance:

Ok great. It doesn't change my opinion.




Quoting smurfbitebug:

...I don't think it's about morality as much as what she wants for her kids that she didn't receive as a child.





Quoting teri4lance:

Bc selective morality is ironic.








Quoting smurfbitebug:

She stated why she felt this way, and it wasn't for religious reasons. So...where did this comment come from?









Quoting teri4lance:

Lol so having a child out of wedlock is fine but not divorce. Lmao





okeydokey


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