I need some time to myself..I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown :(
We recently moved to Hawaii and are currently living in a one-room hotel room. Our house won't be ready til around August 3rd. All week while hubby is at work, it's just me and the kids stuck in the hotel. Hubby takes the rental car, otherwise he doesn't get back until 7pm or later because he has to sit and wait for the bus or a taxi to fight traffic in both directions...if he takes the car, he's back at the normal time. Our hotel is directly across from the airport, and in a not-so-nice neighborhood...I definitely don't feel safe walking anywhere, not there's anything to walk to. There isn't anything around us for the kids to do for a good 5 miles...I know the kids won't walk that far. There's a pool here, but neither of the kids know how to swim and it just doesn't work when it's just me and the kids...I tried. We've done everything I can think of to try and stay entertained during the week...coloring, watching movies, playing superheros, and they've grown bored of all the toys we were able to pack with us. Their attitudes are terrible because we're stuck in the hotel, and I know mine isn't much better.
I don't get ANY time to myself except for when I take a shower or go to the bathroom. Even at night and on the weekends when hubby isn't working, it's still me doing everything for the kids, me dealing with their attitudes. When we go do things, I'm still the one making sure the kids have everything, etc. Yesterday was DD's birthday. I told hubby I was going to go get her present and birthday cake by myself so I could have some time alone. He was fine with that. Well when I was getting ready to go, guess what happened? Hubby decided he and the kids were going to come with me. So I didn't get even an hour to myself. I can't do anything by myself, just for the sake of preserving what little sanity I have left.
I honestly feel like I am going completely insane, and if I don't get some time to myself soon, I'm going to snap. I can tell my husband over and over again that I need to get away for an hour or two, that time to myself is important, and he'll sit there and agree with me. But like over the weekend, as soon as I go to leave, he decides to turn it into a family trip to the store.
That sounds like a pain can you take a taxi out to the park or the beach? Maybe exploring around the hotel would be the best for you it can't be that bad you Are in Hawaii I would think there is some kind of stores or malls you can take the kids to or a taxi with the kids... Also Lay down the law with your hubby tell him "Look I don't care what you say I am going out. Alone. If you have a problem with it we will talk about it when I get back" You need saome "Me" Time too momma and if you ignore the "guilty" feeling of wanting an hour or 2 you will stat Sane.
That's a long time to get housing ready. Is that the norm for Hawaii? Just insist that you get to leave for alone time otherwise you will crack. HUGS! You'll make it!
There's plenty to do, just not near our hotel. We're not close to the beach or anything. On one side of the hotel is the airport. Another side is a commerical storage facility for the airport. On the other two sides are highways and busy streets. We went to the mall in Honolulu over the weekend...it's a very expensive mall...And we don't have our stroller with us so it's difficult. DD is only 2, she doesn't walk the greatest yet and I can't carry her (I have back problems and a bruised my tailbone a couple weeks ago).
All the entertaining things are towards downtown Honolulu and Waikiki, that's at least 7 miles from us. The taxis are expensive, and I'm afraid to take the public bus (just thinking about it gets me all panicky).
Quoting Sammi20:That sounds like a pain can you take a taxi out to the park or the beach? Maybe exploring around the hotel would be the best for you it can't be that bad you Are in Hawaii I would think there is some kind of stores or malls you can take the kids to or a taxi with the kids... Also Lay down the law with your hubby tell him "Look I don't care what you say I am going out. Alone. If you have a problem with it we will talk about it when I get back" You need saome "Me" Time too momma and if you ignore the "guilty" feeling of wanting an hour or 2 you will stat Sane.
The taxis here are expensive...everybody has told us it'll cost about $20 just to go 5 miles. And I'm afraid to take the public bus...the thought gets me all panicky.
Quoting peggy_sue82:
Call a cab and tell him your going out for awhile.Right before the cab gets there.Then go and have some you time.Without it being a family event.
Buy a stroller
Let dh take a bus
Keep car..get kids out and about
Is it just me, or... ?
- Soldier_Wife07
on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:59 PM