I need some time to myself..I feel like I'm going to have a nervous breakdown :(
We recently moved to Hawaii and are currently living in a one-room hotel room. Our house won't be ready til around August 3rd. All week while hubby is at work, it's just me and the kids stuck in the hotel. Hubby takes the rental car, otherwise he doesn't get back until 7pm or later because he has to sit and wait for the bus or a taxi to fight traffic in both directions...if he takes the car, he's back at the normal time. Our hotel is directly across from the airport, and in a not-so-nice neighborhood...I definitely don't feel safe walking anywhere, not there's anything to walk to. There isn't anything around us for the kids to do for a good 5 miles...I know the kids won't walk that far. There's a pool here, but neither of the kids know how to swim and it just doesn't work when it's just me and the kids...I tried. We've done everything I can think of to try and stay entertained during the week...coloring, watching movies, playing superheros, and they've grown bored of all the toys we were able to pack with us. Their attitudes are terrible because we're stuck in the hotel, and I know mine isn't much better.
I don't get ANY time to myself except for when I take a shower or go to the bathroom. Even at night and on the weekends when hubby isn't working, it's still me doing everything for the kids, me dealing with their attitudes. When we go do things, I'm still the one making sure the kids have everything, etc. Yesterday was DD's birthday. I told hubby I was going to go get her present and birthday cake by myself so I could have some time alone. He was fine with that. Well when I was getting ready to go, guess what happened? Hubby decided he and the kids were going to come with me. So I didn't get even an hour to myself. I can't do anything by myself, just for the sake of preserving what little sanity I have left.
I honestly feel like I am going completely insane, and if I don't get some time to myself soon, I'm going to snap. I can tell my husband over and over again that I need to get away for an hour or two, that time to myself is important, and he'll sit there and agree with me. But like over the weekend, as soon as I go to leave, he decides to turn it into a family trip to the store.
Can you drop him off at his job and take the car?
The traffic is insane but usually in the morning the traffic is horrible going to wakiki and night the other way around. DOn't take the highway, The back road is your best bet. The commissary and/nex should be right down the road. I stayed at a hotel over there, WOnt ever do that again.Honestly there isn't much to do besides the beach and sight seeing (JMO) Good luck though momma.
Quoting Soldier_Wife07:
He has to be to work at 5:15 am. It's a 30 min drive with traffic. I tried giving him a ride to work when we were still in Texas. The kids wouldn't go back to sleep any of those times and it made those days extremely hard.
Quoting AjCeCeMom:
Can you drop him off in the morning so you have the car?
Quoting OliviasMommy611:
Ok? Than just complain about how nothing's fair. You turn down every suggestion given to you. This is part of a pcs, it's not news that it's not all roses and sunshine.
Quoting Soldier_Wife07:
He has to be to work at 5:15 am. It's a 30 min drive with traffic. I tried giving him a ride to work when we were still in Texas. The kids wouldn't go back to sleep any of those times and it made those days extremely hard.
Quoting AjCeCeMom:
Can you drop him off in the morning so you have the car?
This! Seriously.. as soon as he puts the keys down... grab and go.... get your nails done at the mall... go have a drink somewhere... or ice cream... Your family will live without you for an hour or so.
Quoting Pnukey:
When he gets home, grab the car keys and run out the door laughing like a loon. Relax a bit, do what you gotta do, and then go home.
SAHM's what do you do?
How often do you and your partner say ILY
- Soldier_Wife07
on Jul. 16, 2012 at 8:59 PM