Im so upset, i thought my husband was smarter than that. *RE-EDIT*
I just cant get over last night. We were making a special dinner, that we never ate, when dh opened the hot oven while our son was standing less than a foot away. And guess what an 18 month old would do? He grabbed the fucking hot oven rack and burnt the shit out of his hand. I dont understand how someone could think that was a good idea. We have gates to keep baby out when the oven is on, im not sure why he was standing next to the oven. And even so, why the hell would you open the oven and pull out the rack right next to a kid? I just got so pissed, i asked what the hell was wrong with him, why the hell he would do something like that. I ran some cool water to run his hand under, and sprayed some bactine on his hand. Then went about putting/throwing dinner away and cleaning the kitchen while dh tried consoling ds. I know it wasnt mature, but i just couldnt get over what just happened. Dh yelled at me that i wasnt making it any better, i said im sorry that administering some first aid for our son and bitching at my husband who just made a terrible mistake wasnt helping, but i wouldnt have the opportunity if he hadnt fucked up. I apologized a bit later for flipping out, i knew it was an accident, but god dammit you cant make those kinds of mistakes. I was just shaking. So this morning he barley said bye to me. Maybe i made a big deal out of it, but he didnt seem to make any deal of it, somewhere inbetween would have been good.
I did overreact, i did not scream or yell or cuss. I made sure my son had first aid, then dh consoled him. I needed to remove myself from the situation. I did not throw away all of the dinner, what could be saved was, and what couldnt, went in the garbage. I did talk calmly with dh and apologized for not being more understanding of him. But i just cant look over something like that. Im sure all of you would have said, "oh well, it happens, dont feel bad honey." But i think it was a SERIOUS oversight on his part, and i couldnt look the other way.
Dear lord, READ. I know this is a bash fest on how i reacted, i am not defending that, i know i could have done better. But i did NOT scream and yell, and i DID aplogize to my husband, i know it was a mistake.
Re-Edit: I want to thank all of you for replying, i had no idea i would recieve so many replies. Great support and sympathy. It is experiences like these that give us tools for life as a parent. I feel like now both my husband and i have a new experience to learn from. We have talked again and we have no hard feelings toward eachother about this whole thing. We are a partnership, and sometimes things arent perfect, but we vowed to support eachother. So, dh supports me even though i was an emotional mess, and i support him even though a bit of his carelessness resulted in my son being injured. And my son is ok, the majority of the burn was only on one finger, the rest are just a bit red and shiny. The one with the blister is being taken care of the best i can. Keeping it bandaged/clean is tough on an 18 month old. I think he has forgiven us:)
Well, I think you overreacted quite a bit. Accidents happen. As long as it wasn't serious or life threatening, I don't see the need to act the way you did. My kids are all older now. The youngest just turned 10. Each one of them has had some sort of similar accident either as a result of dh's or my own lack of thinking.
When my oldest was 18 months, I would put the gate up when I was getting ready for work so that dd wouldn't get to my curling iron. Somehow she managed to reach through the gate and reach her little fingers toward the cord enough to send it toppling down and out into the hall... where it hit her in the arm and burned her pretty badly. She still has a little scar at age 18! Dh was worried, but didn't get mad at me. He knew things like that happen to the best of us.
When my other dd was 2 yrs old she wandered into the kitchen just as I was going to drain the noodles for mac and cheese. Dh was supposed to be keeping her out of the way. She bumped me as I was pouring the noodles into the strainer, I pulled back because I was startled, and hot water spilled down her arm. I felt terrible, dh felt terrible for letting her out of his sight for a second. But we didn't get mad at each other or blame each other. Accidents happen, it's a part of life. Getting so upset doesn't help the situation.
I had a child that would appear when you least expected. He got between me and the microwave which had a melted bowl of _____ in it. Needless to say some laned on his hand. Luckily I did first aid and later asked a nurse about she said for what it was and how long ago it looked good. Sounds like other than flipping out you everything right. And we all have those things we flip out on. Just appoligize again and talk it out again. good luck.
I apologize for all the negative feedback. NO one can say how they will react to seeing their baby get burned! Burns are horrible. Where I live, Department of Children and Families might get called if you had to seek medical attention. Burns can get very infected, also. As a mom of 4 kids, I keep the Silver Sulfide cream on hand even for bad road burns on the knees. At least that way you feel prepared a bit. Just ask your Pediatrician for a prescription. It takes some of the pain away, and the healing time is much, much faster than without it on the burn or severe cut. When you go out in public, moms and grandmas glare at you if you have to explain a burn. They all feel it is preventable.PLUS, as moms..we are usually always 2 or 3 steps ahead of our kiddos even while multi-tasking. So many times I had to watch my youngest fall and get hurt because I had expected her father to grab her while she was learning to walk. It was like he was in LA LA land. I would have had to keep quiet because my dear husband passed away young at 35 on his way to help victims of 911. Stupid hospital told him his heart attack was indigestion.Anyway, I got remarrried to the family friend because I was too scared to be alone with no family support..plus he knew my other 3 kiddos very well..since babies. Anyway, my husband would have made matters worse swearing that my baby wasnt hurt that bad..etc...So I would have had to ignore him for days until I could calmly discuss it. Then he would have found a way to 
blame me! However, I am now hyper vigilante and NEVER leave him alone with kids ...9 yrs later!! My youngest is his precious baby girl, but he still acts like a 16 yr. old when it comes to supervision! Neighbors told me that when I ran inside to use the restroom...he was in front yard with DD when she was 3, He walked away and let her run to ice cream truck alone near a very busy street while he picked up sticks. An older neighbor of mine ran across the street very upset from an entire cul d sac away! She wondered why I was allowing my girl to do this..she said "it just wasnt like you at all..I ran fast"This lady LIKES my husband,too. I am just saying..do not be so hard on yourself! There is a reason that we as moms want to protect our "cubs". It is innate within us. Most men dont have it unfortunately, or else I would be divorced by now. Afraid for him to have girl alone. Counselors have said the same thing. So be proud, and everyone else needs to lighten up until it happens..I hope not to anyone else..but to them. DO NOT JUDGE SO HARSHLY. US WOMEN ARE TOO HARD ON EACH OTHER!! YOU are a GREAT mom protecting your child!!
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- olliesmommy2
on Jul. 23, 2012 at 10:57 AM