Im so upset, i thought my husband was smarter than that. *RE-EDIT*
I just cant get over last night. We were making a special dinner, that we never ate, when dh opened the hot oven while our son was standing less than a foot away. And guess what an 18 month old would do? He grabbed the fucking hot oven rack and burnt the shit out of his hand. I dont understand how someone could think that was a good idea. We have gates to keep baby out when the oven is on, im not sure why he was standing next to the oven. And even so, why the hell would you open the oven and pull out the rack right next to a kid? I just got so pissed, i asked what the hell was wrong with him, why the hell he would do something like that. I ran some cool water to run his hand under, and sprayed some bactine on his hand. Then went about putting/throwing dinner away and cleaning the kitchen while dh tried consoling ds. I know it wasnt mature, but i just couldnt get over what just happened. Dh yelled at me that i wasnt making it any better, i said im sorry that administering some first aid for our son and bitching at my husband who just made a terrible mistake wasnt helping, but i wouldnt have the opportunity if he hadnt fucked up. I apologized a bit later for flipping out, i knew it was an accident, but god dammit you cant make those kinds of mistakes. I was just shaking. So this morning he barley said bye to me. Maybe i made a big deal out of it, but he didnt seem to make any deal of it, somewhere inbetween would have been good.
I did overreact, i did not scream or yell or cuss. I made sure my son had first aid, then dh consoled him. I needed to remove myself from the situation. I did not throw away all of the dinner, what could be saved was, and what couldnt, went in the garbage. I did talk calmly with dh and apologized for not being more understanding of him. But i just cant look over something like that. Im sure all of you would have said, "oh well, it happens, dont feel bad honey." But i think it was a SERIOUS oversight on his part, and i couldnt look the other way.
Dear lord, READ. I know this is a bash fest on how i reacted, i am not defending that, i know i could have done better. But i did NOT scream and yell, and i DID aplogize to my husband, i know it was a mistake.
Re-Edit: I want to thank all of you for replying, i had no idea i would recieve so many replies. Great support and sympathy. It is experiences like these that give us tools for life as a parent. I feel like now both my husband and i have a new experience to learn from. We have talked again and we have no hard feelings toward eachother about this whole thing. We are a partnership, and sometimes things arent perfect, but we vowed to support eachother. So, dh supports me even though i was an emotional mess, and i support him even though a bit of his carelessness resulted in my son being injured. And my son is ok, the majority of the burn was only on one finger, the rest are just a bit red and shiny. The one with the blister is being taken care of the best i can. Keeping it bandaged/clean is tough on an 18 month old. I think he has forgiven us:)
You threw a huge childish fit over an accident. Your husband was probably trying to control his temper. Because I would've been pissed at you.
Also calmer heads prevail during an emergency. I have my freak Out after my child or a child I am watching gets hurt is properly consoled and taken care of.
ETA: instead of throwing a fit in front of your son. talking it over with your husband calmly would've been a good idea. Like this why we use the gate or xyz.
With that said us as mothers are usually 2-3 steps ahead of our kids so yes we would know that that oven door looks like a good thing to touch to a little kid. I know my dh doesnt think that far ahead. Not that it's an excuse--more of a flaw.
Hope your little one feels better. Burns suck.
You threw away a whole meal jsut because your hubby made a mistake? Way to over react there.
Quoting kkillette91:
Wow. Accidents happen. Im sure he felt like crap after it happend. I wouldnt have spoke to you either.
I hope your son is okay. I think you did over react and managed to make your DH feel shit. I am sure he already felt terrible. I can assure you that we all have done something stupid and sometimes kids get hurt. Accidents happen to the best of us.
I know how easy it is to have a negative reaction. Your husband made a mistake that he has to deal with seeing his little burned hand until it heals. I am sure he is feeling quite guilty as it is. I think you should apologize for the harsh way you spoke to him and just explain as a mom you got scared and that is the way it came out. When I was about 2 my mother made the mistake of leaving a hot iron on the counter top after doing clothes and turned her back for one second to find me pulling it down on my hand. I got burned quite badly. I still have the scars 39 years later. I don't remember any of it and my mom felt horrible for the accident. She never did anything like that again.
Maybe your husband did not realize he was so close. Maybe he thought he was a distance back who can say.
Quoting cutebaby06:You threw away a whole meal jsut because your hubby made a mistake? Way to over react there.
I never yelled or even raised my voice, i just kept saying i couldnt believe what just happend and it was bullshit. I agreed it was not the most appropriate way to be, but i was so upset. Listening to my son scream and cry upsets me. And like i said, i did sit and talk with him within 5 min of it happening, i said i was sorry for freaking out an i knew it was an accident. And i did make sure he got first aid, then dh took over consoling.
Quoting cherrywaves21:
I wonder how children managed to survive before baby gates? Seriously. I rememeber being taught no.
You threw a huge childish fit over an accident. Your husband was probably trying to control his temper. Because I would've been pissed at you.
Also calmer heads prevail during an emergency. I have my freak Out after my child or a child I am watching gets hurt is properly consoled and taken care of.
ETA: instead of throwing a fit in front of your son. talking it over with your husband calmly would've been a good idea. Like this why we use the gate or xyz.
Are these really inappropriate pictures? *pics*
Does sex in the 1st 30 days kill a relationship?
- olliesmommy2
on Jul. 23, 2012 at 10:57 AM