Im so upset, i thought my husband was smarter than that. *RE-EDIT*

[olliesmommy2]

 I just cant get over last night. We were making a special dinner, that we never ate, when dh opened the hot oven while our son was standing less than a foot away. And guess what an 18 month old would do? He grabbed the fucking hot oven rack and burnt the shit out of his hand. I dont understand how someone could think that was a good idea. We have gates to keep baby out when the oven is on, im not sure why he was standing next to the oven. And even so, why the hell would you open the oven and pull out the rack right next to a kid? I just got so pissed, i asked what the hell was wrong with him, why the hell he would do something like that. I ran some cool water to run his hand under, and sprayed some bactine on his hand. Then went about putting/throwing dinner away and cleaning the kitchen while dh tried consoling ds. I know it wasnt mature, but i just couldnt get over what just happened. Dh yelled at me that i wasnt making it any better, i said im sorry that administering some first aid for our son and bitching at my husband who just made a terrible mistake wasnt helping, but i wouldnt have the opportunity if he hadnt fucked up. I apologized a bit later for flipping out, i knew it was an accident, but god dammit you cant make those kinds of mistakes. I was just shaking. So this morning he barley said bye to me. Maybe i made a big deal out of it, but he didnt seem to make any deal of it, somewhere inbetween would have been good.

I did overreact, i did not scream or yell or cuss. I made sure my son had first aid, then dh consoled him. I needed to remove myself from the situation. I did not throw away all of the dinner, what could be saved was, and what couldnt, went in the garbage. I did talk calmly with dh and apologized for not being more understanding of him. But i just cant look over something like that. Im sure all of you would have said, "oh well, it happens, dont feel bad honey." But i think it was a SERIOUS oversight on his part, and i couldnt look the other way.

Dear lord, READ. I know this is a bash fest on how i reacted, i am not defending that, i know i could have done better. But i did NOT scream and yell, and i DID aplogize to my husband, i know it was a mistake.

Re-Edit: I want to thank all of you for replying, i had no idea i would recieve so many replies. Great support and sympathy. It is experiences like these that give us tools for life as a parent. I feel like now both my husband and i have a new experience to learn from. We have talked again and we have no hard feelings toward eachother about this whole thing. We are a partnership, and sometimes things arent perfect, but we vowed to support eachother. So, dh supports me even though i was an emotional mess, and i support him even though a bit of his carelessness resulted in my son being injured. And my son is ok, the majority of the burn was only on one finger, the rest are just a bit red and shiny. The one with the blister is being taken care of the best i can. Keeping it bandaged/clean is tough on an 18 month old. I think he has forgiven us:)

[sha_lyn68]

No I'm not failing to see that he has some responsibility. I am pointing out that he wasn't the only adult there who should have been responsible. You said you thought he was smarter than "that", well shouldn't you have been smarter than that too? Als in your red edit you claim that what could be saved from dinner was saved, but you have since admitted to throwing away the bread in a fit of anger. 

No, if it was the other way around and you were saying that your husband said that you weren't smart and that he threw away part of dinner in a rage I would be telling you to kick his ass to the curb until he got help because he obviously has an anger management problem, just as many others on here would be too in the situation was reversed. However they, like you, are going to blame him because he is a man while expecting you to be off scott free. Sorry but I don't play those games. 

Quoting olliesmommy2:

We were both cooking dinner. I didn't realize I was the only one responsible for my sons safety. I didn't anticipate the exact moment my husband would check in the oven. How neglectful of me. I may have over reacted, but you are failing to see my husbands responsibility in this whole situation. If it was the other way around, you would find a way to rip me a new one.

Quoting sha_lyn68:

So you didn't know that your husband was using the oven to cook dinner?

Why didn't you put your son in the diningroom and shut the gate if you were going outside and you knew that your husband was cookiing?

Thanks for admitting you threw the bread away in anger. Many on here have claimed you only threw away food that was ruined when your son caused it to spill into the oven.

BTW: a quick cold rinse then a dunk back into boiling water would have saved the pasta unless it was over cooked.

Quoting olliesmommy2:

 Sorry i havnt replied. This post got kind of out of hand and i havnt read all the replies. I was taking the trash out, i came back in and rounded the corner just in time to see this happen. So, my son was not with me taking out the garbage. And i can say again, i am home alone cooking every evening, and this has never happened. Our son could have been placed in the dining room with the gate closed while the oven was being used. The parts of dinner that were thrown out was pasta, it had been strained and dried in the minutes following the incident, so it was tossed. And then i tossed the bread because i was pissed. I know i over-reacted. I have apologized. I have only one son, and maybe i am just new at this thing, i havnt had to deal with an injury like this since he has been alive. Sometimes you dont always have calm reactions to new situations.

Quoting sha_lyn68:

I'm going to ask these questions one more time:

If you were both in the kitchen why do you feel it was solely your husbands responsibility to watch to ensure that the gate was up and that your son was not in the kitchen?

If you were not in the kitchen with your husband, why wasn't your son with you?

How did your son touching the oven rack ruin the dinner so that some if it had to be thrown away?

 

[Pinkymom143]

I have a question for you, would you be mad at your husband if the places were reversed?  And please don't say if they were reversed it wouldn't have happened.  You never know....But think about it. What if he reacted the way you did......how would that make you feel?